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I tend to write and talk about my experience with cancer and how it relates to relationships and sex. While I find this is an important thing to do, I also recognize that it’s not really sex related. I’m writing this to put the story out here, so that it can be referenced as needed. Starting in about 2008 (18) or so I was having issues breathing and migraines. I was coughing a lot and getting sick rather frequently. I continued to assume that it was just general sick, and mostly ignored it. As it kept happening, I mentioned it to my doctors, and was toldRead More →

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Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. I frequently get contacted by people who wonder whether they are polyamorous or not. They ask whether they could even give non-monogamy a shot. Unfortunately there is no real quiz you can take to find out if polyamory is right for you, however some of your current behaviors and beliefs can help you decide whether or not non-monogamy is worth exploring. Are you comfortable with the idea that there is no normal? One of the coolest, and also hardest, parts of polyamory for me personally was the idea that there is no normal. There are so manyRead More →

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This is to serve as both a content warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. Before I begin anything that I am about to say, I want to express my most heartfelt condolences to the families of the victims of the Santa Barbara tragedy. This was a tragedy that should never have happened. Let me repeat that for you, because it is important. This was a tragedy that should never have happened. The hardest part for me about writing this post was reading the manifesto, because of how blatantly obvious it was that society has created this dilemma. There were parts that made me sickRead More →

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I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. The news of the death of Fred Phelps (leader of the church/hate group Westboro Baptist Church) sent ripples of conversation through the country. The immediate reactions that I could see in my social media feeds were relief and joy. After seeing how many people were impacted by the negativity shared, I can understand those emotions, and I truly feel that they are valid.  I did not love Fred Phelps.Read More →

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What happens when you take a ton of sex educators from around the country (and then some), and put them in a hotel in DC for three days to talk about what they do? Catalyst Con. Obviously. Catalyst Con is a conference created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality. It is about reaching out and stimulating those who attend to create those important conversations in their own communities, changing how we as a society talk and treat sexuality.  It is about stimulating the activist that is within all of us and sparking transformation in the way our friends, neighbors, children and even politicians discuss one ofRead More →

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Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Today I want to talk about sex negativity, sex positivity and what it means for this blog. I would like to start by defining both of these terms: Sex Positive (As explained by Wikipedia): “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation. The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that advocates these attitudes. The sex-positive movement advocates sex education and safer sex as part of its campaign.” Sex Negative (As explained by Jillian Horowitz): ” Being sex-negative means acknowledging that sex, and kink,Read More →

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The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! The first thing I noticed about the Planned Parenthood League of Massachusetts (PPLM)- Sexuality Education Certification Series (SECS) was how accessible the building was. You can access the building via public transit, though there is parking in the area. For those who would like to walk, many of the hotels are located within a 5 mile radius. The accessibility to the building was nice, however I loved how the inside of the building takes into account accessibility and inclusiveness that (as you will see) is a large part of what makesRead More →

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Welcome to my blog! I am the Frisky Fairy, also known as Rebecca Hiles! I have been passionate about sex education for as long as I can remember. I have been working in the sex toy industry since 2009, and I hail from Pittsburgh originally. I am certified as a sex educator through the Planned Parenthood of Massachusetts Sexuality Education Certification Series. I am a polyamorous cancer survivor, and I enjoy talking about my experiences. You can read some of my writing on xoJane.com.   I started this blog because of my passion for sex and sex education. I work as a sex educator, teaching workshops onRead More →