I’m a slut. Slutty McSlutterson over here. I’ll sleep with just about anyone who piques my interest. Kidding (but not really). In reality, I identify as a megasexual. Dr. Liz Powell and I coined the term “Megasexual“ at our panel “Actually, it *is* About the Sex” during Atlanta Poly Weekend 2015. We defined Megasexual as: Megasexuals are characterized as individuals who lack emotional connection toward any person or persons unless they first form a strong sexual connection with someone. The level of sexual connection it takes for an emotional bond to form is often dependent on the initial attraction to the person. It is anRead More →

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I’ve been preetty quiet. I know y’all missed me so hard. Unfortunately, that random silence with slight bits of chattiness is going to continue at least until September (Possibly longer).  Please follow me on Facebook, Instagram, or on Twitter @TheFriskyFairy to get real life shots of what I’m up to. (And also my cat!) So I am a TOTAL SLUT for subscription boxes, and long have I bemoaned the lack of sex box full of body safe goodies. When Unbound poked at me about reviewing their box and I gave the site a look, I decided that maybe, just maybe it wasRead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. Sure, I’d tried monogamy with boyfriends, but I almost always caused them terrible pain. In fact, for a long time, I told partners that they shouldn’t date me because I would end up hurting them. I usually wasn’t wrong. If someone who dated me is reading this now, I want you to know that I’m terribly sorry for any hurt I caused you as I was trying to find myself. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. That being said, a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some veryRead More →

People have told me my language is “inappropriate”, I’ve tried to tone that down here. So please, let go of the pearls you’re clutching. I am a slut. I have taken to reclaiming the word as a badge of honor rather than as an insult. I identify as a “Megasexual“. This meaning of this word was coined by myself and Dr. Liz Powell at our Panel “Actually, it *is* About the Sex” during Atlanta Poly Weekend 2015. We defined a Megasexual as: Megasexuals are characterized as person who lacks emotional connection toward any person or persons unless they first form a strong sexual connection with someone. TheRead More →

Polyamory can be wonderful, but it can also suck so hard. If your partners are awesome, sometimes this can get sorted easily, but it can definitely be tedious. These are my top ten reasons why polyamory sucks. 1.) There is never a bed big enough for everyone, or a cuddle position that leaves everyone feeling properly included. If you’re a person (like me) who has multiple partners that do not interact with each other in a sexual/romantic fashion, you may encounter this obnoxious issue. I have Alex, Jon, KP, and Bobby. All of whom I’m trying to snuggle with in a bed that is notRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments.   When I started this journey it was very hard for me to understand what I was worth. After all, there’s no real site that shares what Sex Educators make. It’s not like I can pop over to Glassdoor to type in my qualifications, and have it spit out how much I should charge someone to recommend the best sex toy, or to help them with their dating profiles. Many educators (myself included), prefer to be contacted for their rates, for a variety of reasons. For me, it’s mostly vanity in that the contact validatesRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the fourth and final segment of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about sex, a topic that needs no other introduction. Check the new language below! Sex-positive: Understanding that sex can potentially be a positive force in someone’s life, regardless of desires, relationship structures, and/or consensual individual choices.  This is my working definition, and I include those who do not enjoy/do not have sex, are anorgasmic, or feel that sex is a negative influence in their life. Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in theRead More →

Another friend of mine is FAMOUS! I love that I’m getting to a point in my life where I get to see my friends all over the internet. I also love that we are at a point as a culture where an article about a mom battling depression via orgasm has gone absolutely viral. I’m so proud of Crista, and I’m so excited about her #orgasmquest, and when she opened up for friends to interview her, I jumped at the chance. Be prepared to fall in love with her a little bit. The Frisky Fairy: OrgasmQuest is blowing up! but let’s get back to the beginningRead More →

A "relationship map," a collection of colored stars, hearts and circles with letters insides, connected to one another by lines

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the third portion of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about communication. Why it’s important, and why I am so deliciously, delightfully, disastrously bad at it. Check the new language below! Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in the relationships accorded the most importance. Secondary Partner:  In many relationships, a secondary partner is the person(s) in the relationship who, have a relationship that is given less in time/energy/etc. than a primary relationship. Tertiary Partner: The person(s) in the relationship who have a relationship that requires littleRead More →

I know I said I’d be back on the 8th, but I JUST MISSED YOU GUYS OKAY!? So, a bit of backstory for you kinky kittens. I got a chance to meet Cooper S. Beckett (Yes, the one from Life on the Swingset) at CatalystCon West 2014. I was lucky enough to be introduced courtesy of my AMAZING roommates, and so I was in complete and utter shock at the fact that not only did I get to meet the infamous Swingset crew, but I actually got to hang out with them, like a lot. Like these people decided that I was going to be a friend (orRead More →