I had been openly poly with my two partners Jon and Kai for almost three years when I met James* in September of 2012. He was handsome, funny, charming, and intelligent. Did I mention charming? I felt so incredibly lucky to have met such a handsome guy on my first real venture into polyamorous dating, and I was enjoying every minute of new relationship energy. In December, after meeting James, I was introduced to Lina*, another girl he was seeing. I spent the next weekend with her, and we swiftly became good friends. The three of us spent time enjoying each other whenever we hadRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Join me at Sexploratorium Thursday, July 24th at 7pm for Sex and Cancer! Get your tickets here! Cancer is a disease that affects millions of Americans, with more diagnosed cases each year. Approximately 54% of cases in the top ten cancers are under the age of 70, and yet, there is very little discussion in doctors offices about how cancer will affect your sex life. There’s little talk about how medications will change your body and your libido-beyond the discussion of fertility after treatment. A cancer diagnosis can often make you feel less human. With all the tests,Read More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. I see a lot of posts promising that if you do this one trick, you’ll have the best sex of your life. If you try this one position you’ll have mind-blowing, passionate sex that will blow your mind. There really is only one way to ensure that you are going to have the best sex of your life. Are you ready for this life-changing tip? Are you sure? You need to ask for it. I know it sounds silly, and a bit ridiculous, but that really is the only way that you can get theRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. I frequently get contacted by people who wonder whether they are polyamorous or not. They ask whether they could even give non-monogamy a shot. Unfortunately there is no real quiz you can take to find out if polyamory is right for you, however some of your current behaviors and beliefs can help you decide whether or not non-monogamy is worth exploring. Are you comfortable with the idea that there is no normal? One of the coolest, and also hardest, parts of polyamory for me personally was the idea that there is no normal. There are so manyRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Today I want to talk about sex negativity, sex positivity and what it means for this blog. I would like to start by defining both of these terms: Sex Positive (As explained by Wikipedia): “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation. The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that advocates these attitudes. The sex-positive movement advocates sex education and safer sex as part of its campaign.” Sex Negative (As explained by Jillian Horowitz): ” Being sex-negative means acknowledging that sex, and kink,Read More →