Hello lovelies! Today I want to talk about something really important to me.  This something that touches everyone, this reason that I do what I do, my passion in life: Sexual freedom. We live in a world where sexual freedom is not a given. It’s not a given to be at peace in your own body. It’s not a given to be able to love yourself. It’s not a given to be unashamed of who you are on the basis of your identities. This. Touches. Everyone. I’m not sure if I’ve ever mentioned it before, but ever since I was a kid I knew IRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments.   When I started this journey it was very hard for me to understand what I was worth. After all, there’s no real site that shares what Sex Educators make. It’s not like I can pop over to Glassdoor to type in my qualifications, and have it spit out how much I should charge someone to recommend the best sex toy, or to help them with their dating profiles. Many educators (myself included), prefer to be contacted for their rates, for a variety of reasons. For me, it’s mostly vanity in that the contact validatesRead More →

I know I said I’d be back on the 8th, but I JUST MISSED YOU GUYS OKAY!? So, a bit of backstory for you kinky kittens. I got a chance to meet Cooper S. Beckett (Yes, the one from Life on the Swingset) at CatalystCon West 2014. I was lucky enough to be introduced courtesy of my AMAZING roommates, and so I was in complete and utter shock at the fact that not only did I get to meet the infamous Swingset crew, but I actually got to hang out with them, like a lot. Like these people decided that I was going to be a friend (orRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. I was going to continue my holiday reviews, but I’m actually so pissed off that I’m skipping the review tonight y’all. I’ll save it for the new year. HARRUMPH. Remember how I spent THREE DAYS talking about what it’s like being a woman on the internet? No? Check here, here, and here. Go ahead, I’ll wait. Now that you’re caught up on how fucking tedious it is to existRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. For the first part of this three part series, click here. For the second part of this three part series, click here. Guess what ladies!? Nothing you do is ever going to be good enough. You are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. If you put motherhood ahead of your career, you’re setting back feminism by 50 years. If you focus on your career over motherhood, you’reRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language. Before I get started, I want to handle my review for the week. Check out Donotlink. It’s a sweet website that allows you to link to websites that are offensive or problematic without improving their search engine position! I’m a huge fan. There has been a lot of shit happening lately. Gamergate, the Snappening, the Fappening, and all sorts of violence against women, both in person and online. In fact, thereRead More →

First things first, I’d like to congratulate Myra T. for winning The Frisky Fairy Giveaway! Thank you all for entering! I’m hoping to do another giveaway soon! This past weekend I made the trek up to New York City to see one of my very best friends and also visit a few excellent sex-positive locations! Take a look at all the awesome things and places to go! First things first I headed to the Museum of Sex, with my best friend to take a peek at their awesome Funland exhibit! Unfortunately, their boob bounce was deflated and having some reconstructive surgery, so I couldn’t hopRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Hello friends! This week I’m discussing a topic that is incredibly close to my heart. This companion to my post So You Think You May Be Poly… has been requested from me multiple times for the friends and family of poly people, to explain the basics of polyamory. This is not a comprehensive guide. In fact, consider this a Part I. First things first, what is Polyamory? If you are hearing about this for the first time, the concept of poly may be bringing up images of religious men with many wives, or crazy sex partiesRead More →

  So thanks to all of you, I’ve reached 300 followers on Twitter! I’m really excited about this, so I’m giving away two awesome things to one lucky winner! I’m giving away a copy of Dr. Sonia Borgs Oral Sex You’ll Never Forget! I reviewed this book in February, and now I’m giving one away to you!   I’m also giving away one of the amazing überlube Good-To-Go Traveler pack! I reviewed überlube earlier in July and I am OBSESSED. I want you to obsess with me, so I’m going to share it with you!   Follow the instructions below! a Rafflecopter giveawayRead More →

I had been openly poly with my two partners Jon and Kai for almost three years when I met James* in September of 2012. He was handsome, funny, charming, and intelligent. Did I mention charming? I felt so incredibly lucky to have met such a handsome guy on my first real venture into polyamorous dating, and I was enjoying every minute of new relationship energy. In December, after meeting James, I was introduced to Lina*, another girl he was seeing. I spent the next weekend with her, and we swiftly became good friends. The three of us spent time enjoying each other whenever we hadRead More →