There is a person I love dearly. He’s one of my people. He’s one of the people who have pushed me when I needed pushed, and been a safe harbor for me in a storm. He gives nods to me every chance he gets, and I try to do the same when I can. Behold, Kevin Patterson of Poly Role Models. You see, in addition to his 18 billion speaking engagements (THE KEYNOTESSSSS), his multiple partners, his muggle job, and his tiny humans he managed to write a book. Kevin has been working on has finished a book for the polyamorous community that can shed someRead More →

Friskyfairy.com has been my go to for writing about my feelings, and that’s not going to stop anytime soon. It’s funny though, when writing posts, I find the writing to be cathartic. With this post I’m more concerned about the fallout in my circles. Still, thank you, my loving readers, for giving me a safe space to vomit my feelings without judgement or shame. I promise we’ll return to happy fun times soon! My most recent breakup has hit me harder than most. I’m not quite sure why. Maybe it’s the fact that I’m the most single I’ve been since I was 17. Maybe it’s theRead More →

Helloooooooooooo my shiny, sexy EverydayFeminism readers! I am so glad you’re here! Please, comment, share, and enjoy! As a quick note to all my readers, I approve all comments, which means that I get to say what stays and what goes. I do not tolerate or approve harassment, abuse, or threats. Be polite in your disagreement, please. I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some very important lessons. I could talk all day about the big lessons that everyone learns, but I would likeRead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some very important lessons. I could talk all day about the big lessons that everyone learns, but I would like to focus on some of the more personal ones. It’s gonna get really personal in here. For the purposes of these posts, I will switch between Poly, Polyamor(y/ous), and Non-Mon(ogamy). Don’t worry, I’ll include this note in all the posts. Check out Part 1 Here. It is believed that 85% of relationships end in a breakup. ThoseRead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. Sure, I’d tried monogamy with boyfriends, but I almost always caused them terrible pain. In fact, for a long time, I told partners that they shouldn’t date me because I would end up hurting them. I usually wasn’t wrong. If someone who dated me is reading this now, I want you to know that I’m terribly sorry for any hurt I caused you as I was trying to find myself. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. That being said, a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some veryRead More →

Hellooooooo my loves. I hope you’ve been well. I had a great time over my birthday, and I even had a birthday party that turned into an “adult swim” after the kids had gone to bed. I’ve had a few doctors appointments after that (remind me to write a post about the Mirena), which is why I’ve been so silent. All in all, 26 is shaping up to be a damn fine year. Which brings us to the less lovely part of my post. Unfortunately, the past few months I’ve been hiding something from you all. Part of this is the fact that despite posting andRead More →

UPDATE May 3, 2020: Interestingly enough, I have a new reason to dislike Franklin Veaux. The Franklin Veaux Survivors “are a group of women and nonbinary folks who have experienced relational harm from Franklin Veaux, a man who has been recognized as a leader and spokesperson in polyamory and has a pattern of using his social capital to cause harm. This site holds [their] stories.” I highly recommend reading their stories. I no longer recommend purchasing this book. I hate Franklin Veaux. Now, now I know that people are going to bristle at that, but bear with me here. The co-author of More Than Two:Read More →

Polyamory can be wonderful, but it can also suck so hard. If your partners are awesome, sometimes this can get sorted easily, but it can definitely be tedious. These are my top ten reasons why polyamory sucks. 1.) There is never a bed big enough for everyone, or a cuddle position that leaves everyone feeling properly included. If you’re a person (like me) who has multiple partners that do not interact with each other in a sexual/romantic fashion, you may encounter this obnoxious issue. I have Alex, Jon, KP, and Bobby. All of whom I’m trying to snuggle with in a bed that is notRead More →

UPDATE May 3, 2020: The Franklin Veaux Survivors “are a group of women and nonbinary folks who have experienced relational harm from Franklin Veaux, a man who has been recognized as a leader and spokesperson in polyamory and has a pattern of using his social capital to cause harm. This site holds [their] stories.” The survivors have asked that shared projects continue to be shared in order to benefit those connected, and in this case a survivor. The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! So in case you aren’t poly, and don’t flip your shit over new polyRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the fourth and final segment of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about sex, a topic that needs no other introduction. Check the new language below! Sex-positive: Understanding that sex can potentially be a positive force in someone’s life, regardless of desires, relationship structures, and/or consensual individual choices.  This is my working definition, and I include those who do not enjoy/do not have sex, are anorgasmic, or feel that sex is a negative influence in their life. Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in theRead More →