Valentine’s day is coming and for some of us that means we get to snuggle up closer to our partners, for others, it means we get to flirt with someone new or treat ourselves. Regardless of what your plans are for romance or sex on Valentine’s Day, here are some stunning options for how to treat yourself or a partner to some excellent care. I’ve curated this list of items you haven’t seen before, but don’t worry, full reviews are COMING SOON. Make sure you pick up some of these stunners at some of my favorite shops! So have a happy Valentine’s day, and I’ll see youRead More →

A "relationship map," a collection of colored stars, hearts and circles with letters insides, connected to one another by lines

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the third portion of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about communication. Why it’s important, and why I am so deliciously, delightfully, disastrously bad at it. Check the new language below! Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in the relationships accorded the most importance. Secondary Partner:  In many relationships, a secondary partner is the person(s) in the relationship who, have a relationship that is given less in time/energy/etc. than a primary relationship. Tertiary Partner: The person(s) in the relationship who have a relationship that requires littleRead More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! First things first, a HUGE congratulations to Adriane, Sarah, Bradley, Danielle, Liz, Jamie, Patrycja, Crista and Victoria for winning my holiday giveaway! Thank you for everyone who entered, I really adore that you’re supporting me! So before I got to interview Cooper S. Beckett about his awesome, awesome book, I got to read it, and hot damn Cooper has a way with words. I don’t often have so many feelings during a book (partly because I read them so fast, and partly because of the content), but I definitely got to enjoy thisRead More →

What a year! I am so glad to have been here for all the amazing things that have happened this year! From speaking at Catalyst Con West (and now East!), to being ranked as one of the Kinkly.com Sex Blogging Superheroes, it has been a great year! Thank you so much for being a part of such a great year! I am so happy to have been around for this year, and I am so glad that you were here to be a part of it. I’ll be traveling and spending time with my family and loved ones, so follow me on Instagram and TwitterRead More →

Autumn is my favorite season. The leaves look so pretty, and the weather is cool and comfy. I love the way things smell as it starts to be the holiday season, and I love how people are thinking more of how grateful the are for the people and things in their lives. This is, of course, not to say you shouldn’t be grateful all the time, but simply that in the time of holidays and traveling and presents and a whole holiday dedicated to being #thankful and #blessed, it’s this time of year that people really stop and reflect on the good things they haveRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Jon lost his job in August. My spouse, my love, my darling, lost his job in August. Of course, this sort of life change sent me into a panic, as it normally does. I’ve been digging up ways to get our finances on track, and hoping, begging, and praying to whatever deity might possibly listen that someone, somewhere hires my husband. My concerns range from the terrifying (what happens if we cannot afford our apartment) to the ridiculous (so much for our date nights). In the chaos, multiple people have remarked that I look asRead More →

First things first, I’d like to congratulate Myra T. for winning The Frisky Fairy Giveaway! Thank you all for entering! I’m hoping to do another giveaway soon! This past weekend I made the trek up to New York City to see one of my very best friends and also visit a few excellent sex-positive locations! Take a look at all the awesome things and places to go! First things first I headed to the Museum of Sex, with my best friend to take a peek at their awesome Funland exhibit! Unfortunately, their boob bounce was deflated and having some reconstructive surgery, so I couldn’t hopRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Hello friends! This week I’m discussing a topic that is incredibly close to my heart. This companion to my post So You Think You May Be Poly… has been requested from me multiple times for the friends and family of poly people, to explain the basics of polyamory. This is not a comprehensive guide. In fact, consider this a Part I. First things first, what is Polyamory? If you are hearing about this for the first time, the concept of poly may be bringing up images of religious men with many wives, or crazy sex partiesRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Join me at Sexploratorium Thursday, July 24th at 7pm for Sex and Cancer! Get your tickets here! Cancer is a disease that affects millions of Americans, with more diagnosed cases each year. Approximately 54% of cases in the top ten cancers are under the age of 70, and yet, there is very little discussion in doctors offices about how cancer will affect your sex life. There’s little talk about how medications will change your body and your libido-beyond the discussion of fertility after treatment. A cancer diagnosis can often make you feel less human. With all the tests,Read More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. The news of the death of Fred Phelps (leader of the church/hate group Westboro Baptist Church) sent ripples of conversation through the country. The immediate reactions that I could see in my social media feeds were relief and joy. After seeing how many people were impacted by the negativity shared, I can understand those emotions, and I truly feel that they are valid.  I did not love Fred Phelps.Read More →