For those of you who aren’t in the know, I’ve spent a lot of time feeling less than because I don’t have a degree. It’s been frustrating and it’s been overwhelming for me, mostly because I dislike feeling as though I can’t do something even though I have experience that outweighs someone with a degree. Well, as I’ve worked on this blog, and learned things I like and want, my goals have shifted a bit, which is why I need your help. I would like to go back to school. I want to go back to school so I can get my degrees andRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. I can remember exactly two instances from my past where my dress code was called into question. The first was when I was in high school, I wore a shirt from Save the Tatas. It simply said “My tatas could beat up your tatas”. This was prior to my breast reduction, and my breasts were (and still are) rather large. My best friend was wearing a shirt that saidRead More →

  So thanks to all of you, I’ve reached 300 followers on Twitter! I’m really excited about this, so I’m giving away two awesome things to one lucky winner! I’m giving away a copy of Dr. Sonia Borgs Oral Sex You’ll Never Forget! I reviewed this book in February, and now I’m giving one away to you!   I’m also giving away one of the amazing überlube Good-To-Go Traveler pack! I reviewed überlube earlier in July and I am OBSESSED. I want you to obsess with me, so I’m going to share it with you!   Follow the instructions below! a Rafflecopter giveawayRead More →

African-American man smoking a pipe with a critical quote about Hobby Lobby

This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. I was intending on writing a lovely post to extol the virtues of my new favorite lube, however, I came home from my vacation to this shit. This post is going to be about the SCOTUS decision in Burwell v. Hobby Lobby Stores, Inc. Now, the overall takeaway for this is that Hobby Lobby WILL COVER all of the following forms of birth control: Male condoms Female condoms Diaphragms with spermicide Sponges with spermicide Cervical caps with spermicide Spermicide alone Birth-control pills with estrogen and progestin (“Combined Pill) Birth-control pills with progestinRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. I frequently get contacted by people who wonder whether they are polyamorous or not. They ask whether they could even give non-monogamy a shot. Unfortunately there is no real quiz you can take to find out if polyamory is right for you, however some of your current behaviors and beliefs can help you decide whether or not non-monogamy is worth exploring. Are you comfortable with the idea that there is no normal? One of the coolest, and also hardest, parts of polyamory for me personally was the idea that there is no normal. There are so manyRead More →

This is to serve as both a content warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. Before I begin anything that I am about to say, I want to express my most heartfelt condolences to the families of the victims of the Santa Barbara tragedy. This was a tragedy that should never have happened. Let me repeat that for you, because it is important. This was a tragedy that should never have happened. The hardest part for me about writing this post was reading the manifesto, because of how blatantly obvious it was that society has created this dilemma. There were parts that made me sickRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. The news of the death of Fred Phelps (leader of the church/hate group Westboro Baptist Church) sent ripples of conversation through the country. The immediate reactions that I could see in my social media feeds were relief and joy. After seeing how many people were impacted by the negativity shared, I can understand those emotions, and I truly feel that they are valid.  I did not love Fred Phelps.Read More →

What happens when you take a ton of sex educators from around the country (and then some), and put them in a hotel in DC for three days to talk about what they do? Catalyst Con. Obviously. Catalyst Con is a conference created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality. It is about reaching out and stimulating those who attend to create those important conversations in their own communities, changing how we as a society talk and treat sexuality.  It is about stimulating the activist that is within all of us and sparking transformation in the way our friends, neighbors, children and even politicians discuss one ofRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Today I want to talk about sex negativity, sex positivity and what it means for this blog. I would like to start by defining both of these terms: Sex Positive (As explained by Wikipedia): “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation. The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that advocates these attitudes. The sex-positive movement advocates sex education and safer sex as part of its campaign.” Sex Negative (As explained by Jillian Horowitz): ” Being sex-negative means acknowledging that sex, and kink,Read More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! The first thing I noticed about the Planned Parenthood League of Massachusetts (PPLM)- Sexuality Education Certification Series (SECS) was how accessible the building was. You can access the building via public transit, though there is parking in the area. For those who would like to walk, many of the hotels are located within a 5 mile radius. The accessibility to the building was nice, however I loved how the inside of the building takes into account accessibility and inclusiveness that (as you will see) is a large part of what makesRead More →