Helloooooooooooo my shiny, sexy EverydayFeminism readers! I am so glad you’re here! Please, comment, share, and enjoy! As a quick note to all my readers, I approve all comments, which means that I get to say what stays and what goes. I do not tolerate or approve harassment, abuse, or threats. Be polite in your disagreement, please. I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some very important lessons. I could talk all day about the big lessons that everyone learns, but I would likeRead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some very important lessons. I could talk all day about the big lessons that everyone learns, but I would like to focus on some of the more personal ones. It’s gonna get really personal in here. For the purposes of these posts, I will switch between Poly, Polyamor(y/ous), and Non-Mon(ogamy). Don’t worry, I’ll include this note in all the posts. Check out Part 1 Here. It is believed that 85% of relationships end in a breakup. ThoseRead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. Sure, I’d tried monogamy with boyfriends, but I almost always caused them terrible pain. In fact, for a long time, I told partners that they shouldn’t date me because I would end up hurting them. I usually wasn’t wrong. If someone who dated me is reading this now, I want you to know that I’m terribly sorry for any hurt I caused you as I was trying to find myself. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. That being said, a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some veryRead More →

People have told me my language is “inappropriate”, I’ve tried to tone that down here. So please, let go of the pearls you’re clutching. I am a slut. I have taken to reclaiming the word as a badge of honor rather than as an insult. I identify as a “Megasexual“. This meaning of this word was coined by myself and Dr. Liz Powell at our Panel “Actually, it *is* About the Sex” during Atlanta Poly Weekend 2015. We defined a Megasexual as: Megasexuals are characterized as person who lacks emotional connection toward any person or persons unless they first form a strong sexual connection with someone. TheRead More →

Hello lovelies! I don’t know if you’ll notice it, but I have a new camera from my metamour! It’s lovely, and we’ll be using it for photos today instead of my phone camera, which is basically the worst. Coming up for future posts, my Bestie sent me a fancy grown-up camera that I’m going to have to figure out. Let’s give a special thanks to my two lovely ladies who made my life simpler and prettier. So I’ve heard lots and lots from people who really want me to do more reviews, so here I am! About a month Ages and ages ago, you may haveRead More →

Hellooooooo my loves. I hope you’ve been well. I had a great time over my birthday, and I even had a birthday party that turned into an “adult swim” after the kids had gone to bed. I’ve had a few doctors appointments after that (remind me to write a post about the Mirena), which is why I’ve been so silent. All in all, 26 is shaping up to be a damn fine year. Which brings us to the less lovely part of my post. Unfortunately, the past few months I’ve been hiding something from you all. Part of this is the fact that despite posting andRead More →

Holy hell, another year has gone by for me! I’m another year older (in four days, but whatever). This year I made a lot of friends, I’ve gone a lot of places, and I’ve gotten to get a lot of readers! Thank you so much for making my 25th year memorable and wonderful! My party is this weekend (check out my Instagram for photos), and my birthday is on July 14th, so don’t expect to hear too much from me till then! I live tweet my life, and love my instagram photos, so follow me on those! If you love what I do, what IRead More →

I have one lung. I live with mental illness. I do this amazing Frisky Fairy stuff. I am trying to go back to school. I’m busy. Parts of my life need me to consistently manage my spoons in order to continue doing the things I love. What are spoons, you ask? Well if you haven’t read the original post yet, do so now. I talk about spoons a lot when I’m talking about my life and so, the short answer when asking about the Spoon Theory is this: The spoon theory is a model used by some disabled people and people with chronic illness toRead More →

  For those of you who aren’t in the know, I’ve spent a lot of time feeling less than because I don’t have a degree. It’s been frustrating and it’s been overwhelming for me, mostly because I dislike feeling as though I can’t do something even though I have experience that outweighs someone with a degree. Well, as I’ve worked on this blog, and learned things I like and want, my goals have shifted a bit, which is why I need your help. I would like to go back to school. I want to go back to school so I can get my degrees andRead More →

I spend a few days playing with my shiny new Hitachi and come back to utter chaos in the form of a group of teenagers who apparently did some magical shit with latex, which was nearly cancelled out by the SCOTUS ruling on same sex marriage. Here’s the only thing I’m going to say on the Same-Sex marriage ruling: #lovewins but remember how many we lost to get here, and don’t forget how much more progress is left to go. — Rebecca Hiles (@TheFriskyFairy) June 26, 2015   If you haven’t heard about the condom thing, here’s a basic rundown. A group of teens inRead More →