The weather here has been a chronic-pain, migraine-inducing nightmare. So what better time to try a new lube than when you’re trying to literally fuck a migraine away? These past few weeks I had the distinct pleasure if trying The Butters Cocoa Butter Lube (henceforth, BCBL). For those of you who missed my last review on The Butters, I’ll give you a brief rundown. The Butters Hygienics Co. was created in 2015 by Jerome Nichols as a way to care for hair and skin, as well as find a safe and simple lubricant and make all of these products affordable. Zanita is The Butters “ChiefRead More →

Butter on a white hand with a teal background that has pink cupcakes on it.

Oh my goodness. Time has no meaning in a pandemic, and then I sat down to write this post and realized it’d been nearly four years since I was really active. I know I’ve neglected y’all and this blog for four years, and I can’t believe you still love me. I feel like the past four years been an absolute blur, but we got through it, and now I’ve got some shiny new letters after my name! Really, thank you, everyone, for supporting me throughout both my undergraduate and graduate degrees, and I am so excited to be The Frisky Fairy, MSW. Thank you forRead More →

There is a person I love dearly. He’s one of my people. He’s one of the people who have pushed me when I needed pushed, and been a safe harbor for me in a storm. He gives nods to me every chance he gets, and I try to do the same when I can. Behold, Kevin Patterson of Poly Role Models. You see, in addition to his 18 billion speaking engagements (THE KEYNOTESSSSS), his multiple partners, his muggle job, and his tiny humans he managed to write a book. Kevin has been working on has finished a book for the polyamorous community that can shed someRead More →

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I’ve been preetty quiet. I know y’all missed me so hard. Unfortunately, that random silence with slight bits of chattiness is going to continue at least until September (Possibly longer).  Please follow me on Facebook, Instagram, or on Twitter @TheFriskyFairy to get real life shots of what I’m up to. (And also my cat!) So I am a TOTAL SLUT for subscription boxes, and long have I bemoaned the lack of sex box full of body safe goodies. When Unbound poked at me about reviewing their box and I gave the site a look, I decided that maybe, just maybe it wasRead More →

UPDATE May 3, 2020: Interestingly enough, I have a new reason to dislike Franklin Veaux. The Franklin Veaux Survivors “are a group of women and nonbinary folks who have experienced relational harm from Franklin Veaux, a man who has been recognized as a leader and spokesperson in polyamory and has a pattern of using his social capital to cause harm. This site holds [their] stories.” I highly recommend reading their stories. I no longer recommend purchasing this book. I hate Franklin Veaux. Now, now I know that people are going to bristle at that, but bear with me here. The co-author of More Than Two:Read More →

  **A quick note: I will be out of town at Playa Del Fuego from May 21-May 27th (I’m taking a couple days of recovery time). If you can’t reach me, that’s why!** I’m a person who prefers a hotel room to a campground. I prefer swimming pools to murky lake water. I prefer needing sunscreen to needing bug spray. I prefer to have wifi when I go on vacation, and if not wifi, at least cell phone reception.  I love big, soft, comfy beds, and air conditioning, and hot running water indoors. When people meet me, they don’t say things like “oh that girlRead More →

UPDATE May 3, 2020: The Franklin Veaux Survivors “are a group of women and nonbinary folks who have experienced relational harm from Franklin Veaux, a man who has been recognized as a leader and spokesperson in polyamory and has a pattern of using his social capital to cause harm. This site holds [their] stories.” The survivors have asked that shared projects continue to be shared in order to benefit those connected, and in this case a survivor. The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! So in case you aren’t poly, and don’t flip your shit over new polyRead More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! First things first, a HUGE congratulations to Adriane, Sarah, Bradley, Danielle, Liz, Jamie, Patrycja, Crista and Victoria for winning my holiday giveaway! Thank you for everyone who entered, I really adore that you’re supporting me! So before I got to interview Cooper S. Beckett about his awesome, awesome book, I got to read it, and hot damn Cooper has a way with words. I don’t often have so many feelings during a book (partly because I read them so fast, and partly because of the content), but I definitely got to enjoy thisRead More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews!   I had heard about The Poly Life app months ago, and I was so incredibly excited about it! I talked it up to everyone I knew of, because the idea of there being an app that all of my partners could get to help us manage our hectic life, and also help me remember things like who has green as a favorite color, and who is allergic to what would have made my life so much simpler. So I waited and waited for the release date to come. When it finallyRead More →

First things first, I’d like to congratulate Myra T. for winning The Frisky Fairy Giveaway! Thank you all for entering! I’m hoping to do another giveaway soon! This past weekend I made the trek up to New York City to see one of my very best friends and also visit a few excellent sex-positive locations! Take a look at all the awesome things and places to go! First things first I headed to the Museum of Sex, with my best friend to take a peek at their awesome Funland exhibit! Unfortunately, their boob bounce was deflated and having some reconstructive surgery, so I couldn’t hopRead More →