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My name is Rebecca Jay and I’m a Philadelphia based dating coach and sex educator known as The Frisky Fairy! I have been passionate about sex, relationships, and sex education for as long as I can remember.  My history is in sex toys and retail, and I’ve been working in the sex toy and sex education industry since 2009. Shortly after my cancer diagnosis, I realized that I wanted to work with people and teach them how to advocate for themselves in their relationships and their lives!

Shortly after, The Frisky fairy was born! I wanted a space to give people the information they need to advocate for themselves. From reviews of my favorite toys, books, blogs, conferences, and more to discussions on my favorite sex and sex education topics, I give you my tips and tricks to making the most aware decisions. My blog is education based, and I hope that every time you leave, you feel like you’ve learned something new!

I have spoken at CatalystCon East, West, and Midwest, Poly For All Seasons, AwesomeCon, Rocky Mountain Poly Living, Atlanta Poly Weekend, InfinityCon, Sex Down South, DragonCon, and Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit. I was voted one of the Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014 and 2015. I am certified as a sex educator through Planned Parenthood of Massachusetts Sexuality Education Certification Series and am a member of the Poly Leadership Network. I have a Bachelor’s of social work and am currently seeking my Master’s in Social Work at Temple University with an expected graduation date of May 2020. You can see some of my other work and speaking engagements here!

I welcome feedback. If you enjoyed something, or disagree with something, please feel free to leave a comment! You can also contact me here!  Please note that harassment, threats, intimidation, repeated annoying and unwanted contact or attention, and repeated personal attacks are not allowed. Please be polite!

Disclosure Policy

This is a disclosure policy for The Frisky Fairy Blog in accordance with the FTC’s changes regarding Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.

Frisky Fairy is a personal blog that is written and edited solely by me, Rebecca Jay aka The Frisky Fairy. I am frequently sent products such as books, lubricants, or sex toys in exchange for impartial, genuine reviews. I also review products that I personally purchased. I am not, and will not be, compensated monetarily for my posts or reviews. Unless requested by the company I am reviewing for, I link to the store(s) that I prefer. I am will note whether or not links lead to an affiliate program for me.

This blog exists for educational and entertainment purposes. The opinions and statements expressed therein are solely those of the author and not representative of the companies or products. The information within friskyfairy.com, while educational and informational is no substitute for speaking with a healthcare professional. The Frisky Fairy aka Rebecca Jay cannot and will not assume responsibility or liability for any use or misuse of information or products presented herein.

For questions or clarification, please contact Rebecca@friskyfairy.com