Polyamory can be wonderful, but it can also suck so hard. If your partners are awesome, sometimes this can get sorted easily, but it can definitely be tedious. These are my top ten reasons why polyamory sucks. 1.) There is never a bed big enough for everyone, or a cuddle position that leaves everyone feeling properly included. If you’re a person (like me) who has multiple partners that do not interact with each other in a sexual/romantic fashion, you may encounter this obnoxious issue. I have Alex, Jon, KP, and Bobby. All of whom I’m trying to snuggle with in a bed that is notRead More →

EDIT: I will no longer be replying to comments. Provided they are not death threats, rape threats, or threats against me or mine I will still approve them through. However, I have better things to do. Like my partners. Xoxo   You know… I’ve got a pretty solid soapbox here. Because of that, I get to talk about issues that I feel really strongly about. Tonight, I’m going to talk about issues that I feel really fucking strongly about. Maybe it’s because I just saw Mad Max: Fury Road and Imperator Furiosa is basically everything I want to be as a person. Maybe it’s because IRead More →

So before I get started in on my review today, I want to send a brief mention to Atlanta Poly Weekend. The weekend was such a wonderful experience in terms of meeting people, and I was so thrilled to have seen so many people in my panels! Thank you so much for having me as a presenter! If you haven’t gone to Atlanta Poly Weekend yet, they’re already planning for 2016, and I highly recommend that you go. It’s a wonderful space with wonderful people and a family friendly event. I especially want to thank the amazing Dr. Liz Powell for being such an awesome panel-mate. You can catchRead More →

Oh my goodness my loves. Playa Del Fuego(PDF) was fucking incredible. It was my first burn, and it was so amazing. I’m glad that I was able to go, and I can’t wait to go again. On the upside, I now get to tell you all about the books I read while I was at PDF instead of socializing! I had been saving Best Bondage Erotica 2015 for a time when I could really give it the attention that it deserves. Which meant that I had it on hold for a few months while my schedule was chaotic. So it totally made sense that while IRead More →

You didn’t think I’d forget that May is Masturbation Month did you? I may be at Playa Del Fuego, but I still remembered. It is very rare for me that I come across a sex toy that I am confused about.  Usually I’m pretty good about identifying exactly what a sex toy is used for. I can identify by the shape and the design of the toy where it’s supposed to go. Usually they’re pretty self explanatory, and when I saw the Fuze Elle, I thought it was no exception. It was a clitoral toy, probably wearable, simple as that. Then I got it in my hands…Read More →

  **A quick note: I will be out of town at Playa Del Fuego from May 21-May 27th (I’m taking a couple days of recovery time). If you can’t reach me, that’s why!** I’m a person who prefers a hotel room to a campground. I prefer swimming pools to murky lake water. I prefer needing sunscreen to needing bug spray. I prefer to have wifi when I go on vacation, and if not wifi, at least cell phone reception.  I love big, soft, comfy beds, and air conditioning, and hot running water indoors. When people meet me, they don’t say things like “oh that girlRead More →

Amid the coverage of the #baltimoreuprising, I had a really strange thing happen to me. I spent a lot of my time screaming at talking to white people when the news of the riots broke. Much of my conversation was spent defending the rioters, and their reaction to the consistent systemic oppression that people of color are facing across the country. Most of the people in the conversation are white. All of the people arguing against me are white. In fact, in the entire 48 hours and well over 100 FB notifications I got on the topic, not once did I see a person of colorRead More →

Yeah, okay so it doesn’t rhyme. Whatever. This April I want to talk about some of my Favorites for squirting. I think that squirting doesn’t get talked about enough, and with all the BULLSHIT CONTROVERSY (seriously though, click here for why this is bullshit) I wanted to post up some of my favorites for things that make me squirt (but not pee). I also wanted to do this post during April, because April Showers, and squirting… COME ON, IT’S CUTE, ADMIT IT. So I’m going to bring up some of my newest favorites for squirting, and give you a rundown on the things I keep by my bedsideRead More →

Yeah, okay so it doesn’t rhyme. Whatever. This April I want to talk about some of my Favorites for squirting. I think that squirting doesn’t get talked about enough, and with all the BULLSHIT CONTROVERSY (seriously though, click here for why this is bullshit) I wanted to post up some of my favorites for things that make me squirt (but not pee). I also wanted to do this post during April, because April Showers, and squirting… COME ON, IT’S CUTE, ADMIT IT. So I’m going to bring up some of my newest favorites for squirting, and give you a rundown on the things I keep by my bedsideRead More →

**UPDATE- 4/10 22:21 EST** I mentioned in this post that it was hacked, that was incorrect of me. The person who created the list simply exploited Fetlife’s code to release information. This information (while not directly outing people) could be used to out people. If you’re concerned, I strongly suggest removing all identifying photos. **In addition, Fetlife has been terrible at protecting their communities (specifically those who are sexually assaulted). Please don’t take my silence as an indication that these weren’t issues before, I simply haven’t had the chance to write about them, whereas this was slightly more time sensitive. ***Finally, it appears that for whatever reasonRead More →