Dear parents, siblings, relatives, and employers of mine. Please stop reading, for your sanity, and mine. Trust me. The moment I held it in my hands, I knew I wanted it for my own. The silicone was so soft, so supple. I gave it a small swat on my hand and felt warm inside. The way it bent and waved, I knew I needed it. I had to have it. I wanted to have it on me, in me. I wanted to feel gentle caress of the silicone against my ass, and then feel the soft, wonderful swat afterwards. I failed to take into accountRead More →

For a long time, people have joked that I’m a succubus. After all, when I have sex, when I get off, the world stops for me. I connect to the universe in a way that fills me with power. Power that rolls up my arms and into my soul. It’s the power that crackles between two people before their lips touch. It’s the desperate need and want of the first thrust. It’s the power that leaves me feeling energized and my partners feeling exhausted. That’s why we say that I’m a succubus. I use that power to charge my charisma, and that’s what draws inRead More →

This is a content notice for this post. There will be lots of talk about depression and self-harm. If you are having suicidal (or self-harming!) thoughts, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or text “Go” to 741-741 to reach the Crisis Text Line If you’re still open to reading this, keep going after this hilarious renaming of animals. I’m particularly fond of the Majestic Sea Flap Flap. I started doing theater in the second grade. From there, I moved to a solo career, singing at a talent show that brought people to their feet. Then choir, where solos came my way quiteRead More →

If you were to tell me that I could get a sex toy that was designed with a penis in mind, that could also get me off in the process, I would jump at the chance to try it. So when I heard about the PULSE II DUO, I was so excited I nearly tore off my panties to try it. The PULSE is marketed as the world’s “first guybrator” and is designed to be placed on the penis (erect or flaccid) and will oscillate against the frenulum for stimulation. The wings of the toy are designed to expand and customize the fit against theRead More →

Helloooooooooooo my shiny, sexy EverydayFeminism readers! I am so glad you’re here! Please, comment, share, and enjoy! As a quick note to all my readers, I approve all comments, which means that I get to say what stays and what goes. I do not tolerate or approve harassment, abuse, or threats. Be polite in your disagreement, please. I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some very important lessons. I could talk all day about the big lessons that everyone learns, but I would likeRead More →

This is a helllllla busy week for me. I am working my spiffy new day job, then on Wednesday I’m going to be in Baltimore for 4-Play! If you’re not coming, you’re missing out on so, so much. If you can’t be bothered to come see me in Baltimore (jerks), you can catch me at Catalyst Con, being a sexy, sexy cupcake. And let us not forget… THIS IS MY 100th POST! Thank you all so much for being a part of my little blog I love you all very much <3 Lube: the final frontier. These are the voyages of The Frisky Fairy. Her lifeRead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some very important lessons. I could talk all day about the big lessons that everyone learns, but I would like to focus on some of the more personal ones. It’s gonna get really personal in here. For the purposes of these posts, I will switch between Poly, Polyamor(y/ous), and Non-Mon(ogamy). Don’t worry, I’ll include this note in all the posts. Check out Part 1 Here. It is believed that 85% of relationships end in a breakup. ThoseRead More →

So… I cleaned my room. This may not seem like much to you, but after spending so much time in a fog dealing with my mental health, getting my room really clean was, frankly, magical. I love using Unfuck Your Habitat to clean my space up. It’s been really, really helpful. The downside is that upon cleaning my room, I realized how many toys and things I have left to review! That means so many good things for you my lovelies, because you get to catch up on all the newest, sexiest products. *purrs* So let’s start off with probably one of the products I was SORead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. Sure, I’d tried monogamy with boyfriends, but I almost always caused them terrible pain. In fact, for a long time, I told partners that they shouldn’t date me because I would end up hurting them. I usually wasn’t wrong. If someone who dated me is reading this now, I want you to know that I’m terribly sorry for any hurt I caused you as I was trying to find myself. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. That being said, a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some veryRead More →

People have told me my language is “inappropriate”, I’ve tried to tone that down here. So please, let go of the pearls you’re clutching. I am a slut. I have taken to reclaiming the word as a badge of honor rather than as an insult. I identify as a “Megasexual“. This meaning of this word was coined by myself and Dr. Liz Powell at our Panel “Actually, it *is* About the Sex” during Atlanta Poly Weekend 2015. We defined a Megasexual as: Megasexuals are characterized as person who lacks emotional connection toward any person or persons unless they first form a strong sexual connection with someone. TheRead More →