I’m a slut. Slutty McSlutterson over here. I’ll sleep with just about anyone who piques my interest. Kidding (but not really). In reality, I identify as a megasexual. Dr. Liz Powell and I coined the term “Megasexual“ at our panel “Actually, it *is* About the Sex” during Atlanta Poly Weekend 2015. We defined Megasexual as: Megasexuals are characterized as individuals who lack emotional connection toward any person or persons unless they first form a strong sexual connection with someone. The level of sexual connection it takes for an emotional bond to form is often dependent on the initial attraction to the person. It is anRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. I will not tolerate victim blaming, shaming, or other incendiary comments that trash victims of sexual assault or consent violations. Those comments will be deleted immediately without approval. This is to serve as a content notice about sexual assault, consent, etc. Settle in friends, because this one’s a doozy. By now, most of the people in my community have heard about Kelly Shibari speaking out about her experience of consent violations with Reid Mihalko. Before I continue I want to make a few things clear: IRead More →

Hello lovelies! Today I want to talk about something really important to me.  This something that touches everyone, this reason that I do what I do, my passion in life: Sexual freedom. We live in a world where sexual freedom is not a given. It’s not a given to be at peace in your own body. It’s not a given to be able to love yourself. It’s not a given to be unashamed of who you are on the basis of your identities. This. Touches. Everyone. I’m not sure if I’ve ever mentioned it before, but ever since I was a kid I knew IRead More →

As usual, I’m going to ask, nay, BEG my Parents, Family Members, Employer and Future Employers to please not read this post. If you read it, I’m not responsible for what you read, as it will constitute a serious overshare of my life. Thanks! PS- This post includes affiliate links <3 First things first, I want to thank all my readers for being super patient with me. I’ve been having some very, very heavy things happening here at home. While I want to share them with you, I need a bit more time to process them myself, but just know I haven’t forgotten you, andRead More →

Another friend of mine is FAMOUS! I love that I’m getting to a point in my life where I get to see my friends all over the internet. I also love that we are at a point as a culture where an article about a mom battling depression via orgasm has gone absolutely viral. I’m so proud of Crista, and I’m so excited about her #orgasmquest, and when she opened up for friends to interview her, I jumped at the chance. Be prepared to fall in love with her a little bit. The Frisky Fairy: OrgasmQuest is blowing up! but let’s get back to the beginningRead More →

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Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the third portion of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about communication. Why it’s important, and why I am so deliciously, delightfully, disastrously bad at it. Check the new language below! Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in the relationships accorded the most importance. Secondary Partner:  In many relationships, a secondary partner is the person(s) in the relationship who, have a relationship that is given less in time/energy/etc. than a primary relationship. Tertiary Partner: The person(s) in the relationship who have a relationship that requires littleRead More →

I know I said I’d be back on the 8th, but I JUST MISSED YOU GUYS OKAY!? So, a bit of backstory for you kinky kittens. I got a chance to meet Cooper S. Beckett (Yes, the one from Life on the Swingset) at CatalystCon West 2014. I was lucky enough to be introduced courtesy of my AMAZING roommates, and so I was in complete and utter shock at the fact that not only did I get to meet the infamous Swingset crew, but I actually got to hang out with them, like a lot. Like these people decided that I was going to be a friend (orRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. I was going to continue my holiday reviews, but I’m actually so pissed off that I’m skipping the review tonight y’all. I’ll save it for the new year. HARRUMPH. Remember how I spent THREE DAYS talking about what it’s like being a woman on the internet? No? Check here, here, and here. Go ahead, I’ll wait. Now that you’re caught up on how fucking tedious it is to existRead More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! It is holiday review time! I’m going to compile 4 reviews of 4 new (or new to me!) products that you might love! Kicking off day 1, is the Penthouse Variations on Oral Sex for your erotica fiends.  As I’ve mentioned before I’m pretty jaded when it comes to erotica. I’m super picky, and not much gets me off. So much of the time, about halfway through whatever erotica book I’m reading, I either give up, read it for enjoyment, or resort to being snarky. I could have a conversation on how sexism in erotica isRead More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! NSFW images ahead…. you have been warned. So I had been very excited to try the Oral Sex Deck, partly because I love the idea of a deck of cards that can be use for trying new things, and partly because I wanted to make a collage from them… That being said, I really don’t find much use for them either way. That sounds harsh, I know but I found a couple really great things about them, and then a bunch of really not so great ones. Let’s start with the good!Read More →