I’m a slut. Slutty McSlutterson over here. I’ll sleep with just about anyone who piques my interest. Kidding (but not really). In reality, I identify as a megasexual. Dr. Liz Powell and I coined the term “Megasexual“ at our panel “Actually, it *is* About the Sex” during Atlanta Poly Weekend 2015. We defined Megasexual as: Megasexuals are characterized as individuals who lack emotional connection toward any person or persons unless they first form a strong sexual connection with someone. The level of sexual connection it takes for an emotional bond to form is often dependent on the initial attraction to the person. It is anRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. I will not tolerate victim blaming, shaming, or other incendiary comments that trash victims of sexual assault or consent violations. Those comments will be deleted immediately without approval. This is to serve as a content notice about sexual assault, consent, etc. Settle in friends, because this one’s a doozy. By now, most of the people in my community have heard about Kelly Shibari speaking out about her experience of consent violations with Reid Mihalko. Before I continue I want to make a few things clear: IRead More →

Hello lovelies! Today I want to talk about something really important to me.  This something that touches everyone, this reason that I do what I do, my passion in life: Sexual freedom. We live in a world where sexual freedom is not a given. It’s not a given to be at peace in your own body. It’s not a given to be able to love yourself. It’s not a given to be unashamed of who you are on the basis of your identities. This. Touches. Everyone. I’m not sure if I’ve ever mentioned it before, but ever since I was a kid I knew IRead More →

Another friend of mine is FAMOUS! I love that I’m getting to a point in my life where I get to see my friends all over the internet. I also love that we are at a point as a culture where an article about a mom battling depression via orgasm has gone absolutely viral. I’m so proud of Crista, and I’m so excited about her #orgasmquest, and when she opened up for friends to interview her, I jumped at the chance. Be prepared to fall in love with her a little bit. The Frisky Fairy: OrgasmQuest is blowing up! but let’s get back to the beginningRead More →

A "relationship map," a collection of colored stars, hearts and circles with letters insides, connected to one another by lines

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the third portion of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about communication. Why it’s important, and why I am so deliciously, delightfully, disastrously bad at it. Check the new language below! Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in the relationships accorded the most importance. Secondary Partner:  In many relationships, a secondary partner is the person(s) in the relationship who, have a relationship that is given less in time/energy/etc. than a primary relationship. Tertiary Partner: The person(s) in the relationship who have a relationship that requires littleRead More →

I know I said I’d be back on the 8th, but I JUST MISSED YOU GUYS OKAY!? So, a bit of backstory for you kinky kittens. I got a chance to meet Cooper S. Beckett (Yes, the one from Life on the Swingset) at CatalystCon West 2014. I was lucky enough to be introduced courtesy of my AMAZING roommates, and so I was in complete and utter shock at the fact that not only did I get to meet the infamous Swingset crew, but I actually got to hang out with them, like a lot. Like these people decided that I was going to be a friend (orRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. I was going to continue my holiday reviews, but I’m actually so pissed off that I’m skipping the review tonight y’all. I’ll save it for the new year. HARRUMPH. Remember how I spent THREE DAYS talking about what it’s like being a woman on the internet? No? Check here, here, and here. Go ahead, I’ll wait. Now that you’re caught up on how fucking tedious it is to existRead More →

First things first, I’d like to congratulate Myra T. for winning The Frisky Fairy Giveaway! Thank you all for entering! I’m hoping to do another giveaway soon! This past weekend I made the trek up to New York City to see one of my very best friends and also visit a few excellent sex-positive locations! Take a look at all the awesome things and places to go! First things first I headed to the Museum of Sex, with my best friend to take a peek at their awesome Funland exhibit! Unfortunately, their boob bounce was deflated and having some reconstructive surgery, so I couldn’t hopRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Hello friends! This week I’m discussing a topic that is incredibly close to my heart. This companion to my post So You Think You May Be Poly… has been requested from me multiple times for the friends and family of poly people, to explain the basics of polyamory. This is not a comprehensive guide. In fact, consider this a Part I. First things first, what is Polyamory? If you are hearing about this for the first time, the concept of poly may be bringing up images of religious men with many wives, or crazy sex partiesRead More →

I had been openly poly with my two partners Jon and Kai for almost three years when I met James* in September of 2012. He was handsome, funny, charming, and intelligent. Did I mention charming? I felt so incredibly lucky to have met such a handsome guy on my first real venture into polyamorous dating, and I was enjoying every minute of new relationship energy. In December, after meeting James, I was introduced to Lina*, another girl he was seeing. I spent the next weekend with her, and we swiftly became good friends. The three of us spent time enjoying each other whenever we hadRead More →