Polyamory can be wonderful, but it can also suck so hard. If your partners are awesome, sometimes this can get sorted easily, but it can definitely be tedious. These are my top ten reasons why polyamory sucks. 1.) There is never a bed big enough for everyone, or a cuddle position that leaves everyone feeling properly included. If you’re a person (like me) who has multiple partners that do not interact with each other in a sexual/romantic fashion, you may encounter this obnoxious issue. I have Alex, Jon, KP, and Bobby. All of whom I’m trying to snuggle with in a bed that is notRead More →

  **A quick note: I will be out of town at Playa Del Fuego from May 21-May 27th (I’m taking a couple days of recovery time). If you can’t reach me, that’s why!** I’m a person who prefers a hotel room to a campground. I prefer swimming pools to murky lake water. I prefer needing sunscreen to needing bug spray. I prefer to have wifi when I go on vacation, and if not wifi, at least cell phone reception.  I love big, soft, comfy beds, and air conditioning, and hot running water indoors. When people meet me, they don’t say things like “oh that girlRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a content notice and a notice about NSFW language and images. Poly Living Philadelphia! This weekend (if you’ve been following me on Twitter), you may have noticed that I was at Poly Living Philadelphia. PLP is a reasonably small con hosted by Loving More, a non-profit that focuses on poly activism and relationship choice. There were a number of amazing things to come out of the weekend. I shared some pretty spectacular kisses. I met some new friends, and some friends I hadRead More →

Valentine’s day is coming and for some of us that means we get to snuggle up closer to our partners, for others, it means we get to flirt with someone new or treat ourselves. Regardless of what your plans are for romance or sex on Valentine’s Day, here are some stunning options for how to treat yourself or a partner to some excellent care. I’ve curated this list of items you haven’t seen before, but don’t worry, full reviews are COMING SOON. Make sure you pick up some of these stunners at some of my favorite shops! So have a happy Valentine’s day, and I’ll see youRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the fourth and final segment of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about sex, a topic that needs no other introduction. Check the new language below! Sex-positive: Understanding that sex can potentially be a positive force in someone’s life, regardless of desires, relationship structures, and/or consensual individual choices.  This is my working definition, and I include those who do not enjoy/do not have sex, are anorgasmic, or feel that sex is a negative influence in their life. Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in theRead More →

Another friend of mine is FAMOUS! I love that I’m getting to a point in my life where I get to see my friends all over the internet. I also love that we are at a point as a culture where an article about a mom battling depression via orgasm has gone absolutely viral. I’m so proud of Crista, and I’m so excited about her #orgasmquest, and when she opened up for friends to interview her, I jumped at the chance. Be prepared to fall in love with her a little bit. The Frisky Fairy: OrgasmQuest is blowing up! but let’s get back to the beginningRead More →

A "relationship map," a collection of colored stars, hearts and circles with letters insides, connected to one another by lines

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the third portion of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about communication. Why it’s important, and why I am so deliciously, delightfully, disastrously bad at it. Check the new language below! Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in the relationships accorded the most importance. Secondary Partner:  In many relationships, a secondary partner is the person(s) in the relationship who, have a relationship that is given less in time/energy/etc. than a primary relationship. Tertiary Partner: The person(s) in the relationship who have a relationship that requires littleRead More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! First things first, a HUGE congratulations to Adriane, Sarah, Bradley, Danielle, Liz, Jamie, Patrycja, Crista and Victoria for winning my holiday giveaway! Thank you for everyone who entered, I really adore that you’re supporting me! So before I got to interview Cooper S. Beckett about his awesome, awesome book, I got to read it, and hot damn Cooper has a way with words. I don’t often have so many feelings during a book (partly because I read them so fast, and partly because of the content), but I definitely got to enjoy thisRead More →

I know I said I’d be back on the 8th, but I JUST MISSED YOU GUYS OKAY!? So, a bit of backstory for you kinky kittens. I got a chance to meet Cooper S. Beckett (Yes, the one from Life on the Swingset) at CatalystCon West 2014. I was lucky enough to be introduced courtesy of my AMAZING roommates, and so I was in complete and utter shock at the fact that not only did I get to meet the infamous Swingset crew, but I actually got to hang out with them, like a lot. Like these people decided that I was going to be a friend (orRead More →

What a year! I am so glad to have been here for all the amazing things that have happened this year! From speaking at Catalyst Con West (and now East!), to being ranked as one of the Kinkly.com Sex Blogging Superheroes, it has been a great year! Thank you so much for being a part of such a great year! I am so happy to have been around for this year, and I am so glad that you were here to be a part of it. I’ll be traveling and spending time with my family and loved ones, so follow me on Instagram and TwitterRead More →