Dear Mom, Dad, Family Members, Employer, and Future Employers (But not my beloved readers because, seriously, you’re who I do this for <3) I strongly STRONGLY discourage you from reading this post. I really do. If you read it, I’m not responsible for what you’re reading. I gave you a magical warning that you’re going to hear WAAAAAY to much about my sexytimes (WHICH YOU SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BECAUSE IT’S NOT LIKE I’M NOT OPEN ABOUT WHAT I DO… *ahem*). If you want to keep reading I can’t stop you, but here’s a cute .gif just in case you want to turn back now! IRead More →

For a long time, people have joked that I’m a succubus. After all, when I have sex, when I get off, the world stops for me. I connect to the universe in a way that fills me with power. Power that rolls up my arms and into my soul. It’s the power that crackles between two people before their lips touch. It’s the desperate need and want of the first thrust. It’s the power that leaves me feeling energized and my partners feeling exhausted. That’s why we say that I’m a succubus. I use that power to charge my charisma, and that’s what draws inRead More →

If you were to tell me that I could get a sex toy that was designed with a penis in mind, that could also get me off in the process, I would jump at the chance to try it. So when I heard about the PULSE II DUO, I was so excited I nearly tore off my panties to try it. The PULSE is marketed as the world’s “first guybrator” and is designed to be placed on the penis (erect or flaccid) and will oscillate against the frenulum for stimulation. The wings of the toy are designed to expand and customize the fit against theRead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some very important lessons. I could talk all day about the big lessons that everyone learns, but I would like to focus on some of the more personal ones. It’s gonna get really personal in here. For the purposes of these posts, I will switch between Poly, Polyamor(y/ous), and Non-Mon(ogamy). Don’t worry, I’ll include this note in all the posts. Check out Part 1 Here. It is believed that 85% of relationships end in a breakup. ThoseRead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. Sure, I’d tried monogamy with boyfriends, but I almost always caused them terrible pain. In fact, for a long time, I told partners that they shouldn’t date me because I would end up hurting them. I usually wasn’t wrong. If someone who dated me is reading this now, I want you to know that I’m terribly sorry for any hurt I caused you as I was trying to find myself. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. That being said, a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some veryRead More →

People have told me my language is “inappropriate”, I’ve tried to tone that down here. So please, let go of the pearls you’re clutching. I am a slut. I have taken to reclaiming the word as a badge of honor rather than as an insult. I identify as a “Megasexual“. This meaning of this word was coined by myself and Dr. Liz Powell at our Panel “Actually, it *is* About the Sex” during Atlanta Poly Weekend 2015. We defined a Megasexual as: Megasexuals are characterized as person who lacks emotional connection toward any person or persons unless they first form a strong sexual connection with someone. TheRead More →

Hellooooooo my loves. I hope you’ve been well. I had a great time over my birthday, and I even had a birthday party that turned into an “adult swim” after the kids had gone to bed. I’ve had a few doctors appointments after that (remind me to write a post about the Mirena), which is why I’ve been so silent. All in all, 26 is shaping up to be a damn fine year. Which brings us to the less lovely part of my post. Unfortunately, the past few months I’ve been hiding something from you all. Part of this is the fact that despite posting andRead More →

I have one lung. I live with mental illness. I do this amazing Frisky Fairy stuff. I am trying to go back to school. I’m busy. Parts of my life need me to consistently manage my spoons in order to continue doing the things I love. What are spoons, you ask? Well if you haven’t read the original post yet, do so now. I talk about spoons a lot when I’m talking about my life and so, the short answer when asking about the Spoon Theory is this: The spoon theory is a model used by some disabled people and people with chronic illness toRead More →

I spend a few days playing with my shiny new Hitachi and come back to utter chaos in the form of a group of teenagers who apparently did some magical shit with latex, which was nearly cancelled out by the SCOTUS ruling on same sex marriage. Here’s the only thing I’m going to say on the Same-Sex marriage ruling: #lovewins but remember how many we lost to get here, and don’t forget how much more progress is left to go. — Rebecca Hiles (@TheFriskyFairy) June 26, 2015   If you haven’t heard about the condom thing, here’s a basic rundown. A group of teens inRead More →

I hate Franklin Veaux. Now, now I know that people are going to bristle at that, but bear with me here. The co-author of More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory, a book I absolutely adored, (and highly recommend to those who are new to poly) is a jerk. You are asking me why, I can hear you shiver with antici- I hate Franklin Veaux because he made me cry. Not just cry, he made me weep. When Jon and I first started dating, I told him pretty explicitly that I wasn’t very good at monogamy. I told him all the things that could happen. AllRead More →