I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. Sure, I’d tried monogamy with boyfriends, but I almost always caused them terrible pain. In fact, for a long time, I told partners that they shouldn’t date me because I would end up hurting them. I usually wasn’t wrong. If someone who dated me is reading this now, I want you to know that I’m terribly sorry for any hurt I caused you as I was trying to find myself. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. That being said, a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some veryRead More →

Hellooooooo my loves. I hope you’ve been well. I had a great time over my birthday, and I even had a birthday party that turned into an “adult swim” after the kids had gone to bed. I’ve had a few doctors appointments after that (remind me to write a post about the Mirena), which is why I’ve been so silent. All in all, 26 is shaping up to be a damn fine year. Which brings us to the less lovely part of my post. Unfortunately, the past few months I’ve been hiding something from you all. Part of this is the fact that despite posting andRead More →

Polyamory can be wonderful, but it can also suck so hard. If your partners are awesome, sometimes this can get sorted easily, but it can definitely be tedious. These are my top ten reasons why polyamory sucks. 1.) There is never a bed big enough for everyone, or a cuddle position that leaves everyone feeling properly included. If you’re a person (like me) who has multiple partners that do not interact with each other in a sexual/romantic fashion, you may encounter this obnoxious issue. I have Alex, Jon, KP, and Bobby. All of whom I’m trying to snuggle with in a bed that is notRead More →