Friskyfairy.com has been my go to for writing about my feelings, and that’s not going to stop anytime soon. It’s funny though, when writing posts, I find the writing to be cathartic. With this post I’m more concerned about the fallout in my circles. Still, thank you, my loving readers, for giving me a safe space to vomit my feelings without judgement or shame. I promise we’ll return to happy fun times soon! My most recent breakup has hit me harder than most. I’m not quite sure why. Maybe it’s the fact that I’m the most single I’ve been since I was 17. Maybe it’s theRead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some very important lessons. I could talk all day about the big lessons that everyone learns, but I would like to focus on some of the more personal ones. It’s gonna get really personal in here. For the purposes of these posts, I will switch between Poly, Polyamor(y/ous), and Non-Mon(ogamy). Don’t worry, I’ll include this note in all the posts. Check out Part 1 Here. It is believed that 85% of relationships end in a breakup. ThoseRead More →

I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 16. Sure, I’d tried monogamy with boyfriends, but I almost always caused them terrible pain. In fact, for a long time, I told partners that they shouldn’t date me because I would end up hurting them. I usually wasn’t wrong. If someone who dated me is reading this now, I want you to know that I’m terribly sorry for any hurt I caused you as I was trying to find myself. My 26th birthday was in July, which means I’ve been non-monogamous for a decade. That’s freaking intense. That being said, a decade of non-monogamy has taught me some veryRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. I frequently get contacted by people who wonder whether they are polyamorous or not. They ask whether they could even give non-monogamy a shot. Unfortunately there is no real quiz you can take to find out if polyamory is right for you, however some of your current behaviors and beliefs can help you decide whether or not non-monogamy is worth exploring. Are you comfortable with the idea that there is no normal? One of the coolest, and also hardest, parts of polyamory for me personally was the idea that there is no normal. There are so manyRead More →