I hate Franklin Veaux. Now, now I know that people are going to bristle at that, but bear with me here. The co-author of More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory, a book I absolutely adored, (and highly recommend to those who are new to poly) is a jerk. You are asking me why, I can hear you shiver with antici- I hate Franklin Veaux because he made me cry. Not just cry, he made me weep. When Jon and I first started dating, I told him pretty explicitly that I wasn’t very good at monogamy. I told him all the things that could happen. AllRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today, we’re going to talk about a really central theme to polyamory: Jealousy. Before we dig into this, let me lay down some definitions that we will be chatting about: Envy: When you want what someone else has. Jealousy: When you’re worried someone is trying to take what you have. NRE: New Relationship Energy- The excitement that exists when a relationship is new. Can last 3 months-2 years and beyond, and is individual to each relationship. There is a consistent theme when I am discussing polyamory around monogamous folk.Read More →

This is to serve as both a content notice and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. Every single year there is at least one blog post that goes viral that discusses the behaviors of young women during the warmer months. Most of the time those blogs discuss the ways that women are destroying the men of the world and luring them into sin and hellfire by posting a sultry picture of themselves in a bikini, or a sexy summer pic on instagram where they’re braless and comfortable. Today, I’m here to bitch about them. This is such bullshit. This is the bullshit that people areRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. I frequently get contacted by people who wonder whether they are polyamorous or not. They ask whether they could even give non-monogamy a shot. Unfortunately there is no real quiz you can take to find out if polyamory is right for you, however some of your current behaviors and beliefs can help you decide whether or not non-monogamy is worth exploring. Are you comfortable with the idea that there is no normal? One of the coolest, and also hardest, parts of polyamory for me personally was the idea that there is no normal. There are so manyRead More →