I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. The news of the death of Fred Phelps (leader of the church/hate group Westboro Baptist Church) sent ripples of conversation through the country. The immediate reactions that I could see in my social media feeds were relief and joy. After seeing how many people were impacted by the negativity shared, I can understand those emotions, and I truly feel that they are valid.  I did not love Fred Phelps.Read More →

What happens when you take a ton of sex educators from around the country (and then some), and put them in a hotel in DC for three days to talk about what they do? Catalyst Con. Obviously. Catalyst Con is a conference created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality. It is about reaching out and stimulating those who attend to create those important conversations in their own communities, changing how we as a society talk and treat sexuality.  It is about stimulating the activist that is within all of us and sparking transformation in the way our friends, neighbors, children and even politicians discuss one ofRead More →

Book cover, "Oral Sex You'll Never Forget: Toe-Curling Techniques & Positions for Him and Her", showing a pair of women's legs in high heels from the knees down.

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! I’m back! Sorry about the disappearing act friends, I had some technical issues to sort out. Now that they’re good, I’m back to reviewing! Yay! This week I’m reviewing Oral Sex You’ll Never Forget written by Sonia Borg. I have definitely had the pleasure of reading through this book before, and I have used it when writing a few of my workshops. Unfortunately, I wanted this book to be different than others in the Oral Sex…Never Forget series and I was disappointed. This review will contain some profanity and some NSFWRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Today I want to talk about sex negativity, sex positivity and what it means for this blog. I would like to start by defining both of these terms: Sex Positive (As explained by Wikipedia): “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation. The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that advocates these attitudes. The sex-positive movement advocates sex education and safer sex as part of its campaign.” Sex Negative (As explained by Jillian Horowitz): ” Being sex-negative means acknowledging that sex, and kink,Read More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! The first thing I noticed about the Planned Parenthood League of Massachusetts (PPLM)- Sexuality Education Certification Series (SECS) was how accessible the building was. You can access the building via public transit, though there is parking in the area. For those who would like to walk, many of the hotels are located within a 5 mile radius. The accessibility to the building was nice, however I loved how the inside of the building takes into account accessibility and inclusiveness that (as you will see) is a large part of what makesRead More →

Welcome to my blog! I am the Frisky Fairy, also known as Rebecca Hiles! I have been passionate about sex education for as long as I can remember. I have been working in the sex toy industry since 2009, and I hail from Pittsburgh originally. I am certified as a sex educator through the Planned Parenthood of Massachusetts Sexuality Education Certification Series. I am a polyamorous cancer survivor, and I enjoy talking about my experiences. You can read some of my writing on xoJane.com.   I started this blog because of my passion for sex and sex education. I work as a sex educator, teaching workshops onRead More →