I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. I will not tolerate victim blaming, shaming, or other incendiary comments that trash victims of sexual assault or consent violations. Those comments will be deleted immediately without approval. This is to serve as a content notice about sexual assault, consent, etc. Settle in friends, because this one’s a doozy. By now, most of the people in my community have heard about Kelly Shibari speaking out about her experience of consent violations with Reid Mihalko. Before I continue I want to make a few things clear: IRead More →

If you were to tell me that I could get a sex toy that was designed with a penis in mind, that could also get me off in the process, I would jump at the chance to try it. So when I heard about the PULSE II DUO, I was so excited I nearly tore off my panties to try it. The PULSE is marketed as the world’s “first guybrator” and is designed to be placed on the penis (erect or flaccid) and will oscillate against the frenulum for stimulation. The wings of the toy are designed to expand and customize the fit against theRead More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! NSFW images ahead…. you have been warned. So I had been very excited to try the Oral Sex Deck, partly because I love the idea of a deck of cards that can be use for trying new things, and partly because I wanted to make a collage from them… That being said, I really don’t find much use for them either way. That sounds harsh, I know but I found a couple really great things about them, and then a bunch of really not so great ones. Let’s start with the good!Read More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews!   I had heard about The Poly Life app months ago, and I was so incredibly excited about it! I talked it up to everyone I knew of, because the idea of there being an app that all of my partners could get to help us manage our hectic life, and also help me remember things like who has green as a favorite color, and who is allergic to what would have made my life so much simpler. So I waited and waited for the release date to come. When it finallyRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. What happens when you mess up? Is an apology enough? Can you make a mistake and recover from it? As a feminist, a sex educator, and someone who basically lives their life on the internet and in a public forum, I am often overcome with anxiety about these questions. In fact, if there is anything about what I do that is most exhausting, it is the fact that I amRead More →

African-American man smoking a pipe with a critical quote about Hobby Lobby

This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. I was intending on writing a lovely post to extol the virtues of my new favorite lube, however, I came home from my vacation to this shit. This post is going to be about the SCOTUS decision in Burwell v. Hobby Lobby Stores, Inc. Now, the overall takeaway for this is that Hobby Lobby WILL COVER all of the following forms of birth control: Male condoms Female condoms Diaphragms with spermicide Sponges with spermicide Cervical caps with spermicide Spermicide alone Birth-control pills with estrogen and progestin (“Combined Pill) Birth-control pills with progestinRead More →

This is to serve as both a content notice and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. Every single year there is at least one blog post that goes viral that discusses the behaviors of young women during the warmer months. Most of the time those blogs discuss the ways that women are destroying the men of the world and luring them into sin and hellfire by posting a sultry picture of themselves in a bikini, or a sexy summer pic on instagram where they’re braless and comfortable. Today, I’m here to bitch about them. This is such bullshit. This is the bullshit that people areRead More →

This is to serve as both a content warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. Before I begin anything that I am about to say, I want to express my most heartfelt condolences to the families of the victims of the Santa Barbara tragedy. This was a tragedy that should never have happened. Let me repeat that for you, because it is important. This was a tragedy that should never have happened. The hardest part for me about writing this post was reading the manifesto, because of how blatantly obvious it was that society has created this dilemma. There were parts that made me sickRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. The news of the death of Fred Phelps (leader of the church/hate group Westboro Baptist Church) sent ripples of conversation through the country. The immediate reactions that I could see in my social media feeds were relief and joy. After seeing how many people were impacted by the negativity shared, I can understand those emotions, and I truly feel that they are valid.  I did not love Fred Phelps.Read More →

What happens when you take a ton of sex educators from around the country (and then some), and put them in a hotel in DC for three days to talk about what they do? Catalyst Con. Obviously. Catalyst Con is a conference created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality. It is about reaching out and stimulating those who attend to create those important conversations in their own communities, changing how we as a society talk and treat sexuality.  It is about stimulating the activist that is within all of us and sparking transformation in the way our friends, neighbors, children and even politicians discuss one ofRead More →