I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. I will not tolerate victim blaming, shaming, or other incendiary comments that trash victims of sexual assault or consent violations. Those comments will be deleted immediately without approval. This is to serve as a content notice about sexual assault, consent, etc. Settle in friends, because this one’s a doozy. By now, most of the people in my community have heard about Kelly Shibari speaking out about her experience of consent violations with Reid Mihalko. Before I continue I want to make a few things clear: IRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments.   When I started this journey it was very hard for me to understand what I was worth. After all, there’s no real site that shares what Sex Educators make. It’s not like I can pop over to Glassdoor to type in my qualifications, and have it spit out how much I should charge someone to recommend the best sex toy, or to help them with their dating profiles. Many educators (myself included), prefer to be contacted for their rates, for a variety of reasons. For me, it’s mostly vanity in that the contact validatesRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Jon lost his job in August. My spouse, my love, my darling, lost his job in August. Of course, this sort of life change sent me into a panic, as it normally does. I’ve been digging up ways to get our finances on track, and hoping, begging, and praying to whatever deity might possibly listen that someone, somewhere hires my husband. My concerns range from the terrifying (what happens if we cannot afford our apartment) to the ridiculous (so much for our date nights). In the chaos, multiple people have remarked that I look asRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. I frequently get contacted by people who wonder whether they are polyamorous or not. They ask whether they could even give non-monogamy a shot. Unfortunately there is no real quiz you can take to find out if polyamory is right for you, however some of your current behaviors and beliefs can help you decide whether or not non-monogamy is worth exploring. Are you comfortable with the idea that there is no normal? One of the coolest, and also hardest, parts of polyamory for me personally was the idea that there is no normal. There are so manyRead More →