I have written about my cancer journey before. I’ve mentioned my care team, who make my life easier, and their credentials. I’ve written about how to interact with cancer patients. I’ve even spoken on the topic for a third time at Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit. I’ve tried to be kind and jovial, and reasonable about the entire thing. I’ve tried to be educational. I’ve tried to be happy just to be alive. I just can’t anymore. I can’t advocate for patient rights, I can’t advocate for science without a little venom. Coming off a post raging against alternative medicine, I can’t be quiet about it anymore.Read More →

EDIT: I will no longer be replying to comments. Provided they are not death threats, rape threats, or threats against me or mine I will still approve them through. However, I have better things to do. Like my partners. Xoxo   You know… I’ve got a pretty solid soapbox here. Because of that, I get to talk about issues that I feel really strongly about. Tonight, I’m going to talk about issues that I feel really fucking strongly about. Maybe it’s because I just saw Mad Max: Fury Road and Imperator Furiosa is basically everything I want to be as a person. Maybe it’s because IRead More →

Autumn is my favorite season. The leaves look so pretty, and the weather is cool and comfy. I love the way things smell as it starts to be the holiday season, and I love how people are thinking more of how grateful the are for the people and things in their lives. This is, of course, not to say you shouldn’t be grateful all the time, but simply that in the time of holidays and traveling and presents and a whole holiday dedicated to being #thankful and #blessed, it’s this time of year that people really stop and reflect on the good things they haveRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. If you are having thoughts of suicide or self-harm, please, click here or contact the national suicide hotline at  1-800-273-8255. For help finding affordable mental health services, click here. I know that this doesn’t necessarily deal with sex, but I believe it is incredibly important to discuss. When we die, there is often a note about how we died that gets attached to our stories. Those pieces of our lives, of our deaths,Read More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Join me at Sexploratorium Thursday, July 24th at 7pm for Sex and Cancer! Get your tickets here! Cancer is a disease that affects millions of Americans, with more diagnosed cases each year. Approximately 54% of cases in the top ten cancers are under the age of 70, and yet, there is very little discussion in doctors offices about how cancer will affect your sex life. There’s little talk about how medications will change your body and your libido-beyond the discussion of fertility after treatment. A cancer diagnosis can often make you feel less human. With all the tests,Read More →

I tend to write and talk about my experience with cancer and how it relates to relationships and sex. While I find this is an important thing to do, I also recognize that it’s not really sex related. I’m writing this to put the story out here, so that it can be referenced as needed. Starting in about 2008 (18) or so I was having issues breathing and migraines. I was coughing a lot and getting sick rather frequently. I continued to assume that it was just general sick, and mostly ignored it. As it kept happening, I mentioned it to my doctors, and was toldRead More →