Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the fourth and final segment of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about sex, a topic that needs no other introduction. Check the new language below! Sex-positive: Understanding that sex can potentially be a positive force in someone’s life, regardless of desires, relationship structures, and/or consensual individual choices.  This is my working definition, and I include those who do not enjoy/do not have sex, are anorgasmic, or feel that sex is a negative influence in their life. Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in theRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. I was going to continue my holiday reviews, but I’m actually so pissed off that I’m skipping the review tonight y’all. I’ll save it for the new year. HARRUMPH. Remember how I spent THREE DAYS talking about what it’s like being a woman on the internet? No? Check here, here, and here. Go ahead, I’ll wait. Now that you’re caught up on how fucking tedious it is to existRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. For the first part of this three part series, click here. For the second part of this three part series, click here. Guess what ladies!? Nothing you do is ever going to be good enough. You are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. If you put motherhood ahead of your career, you’re setting back feminism by 50 years. If you focus on your career over motherhood, you’reRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. For the first part of this three part series, click here. We hear a lot about misogyny on the internet. I can literally give you post after post about misogyny on the internet. I can show an entire community that believes that women should not be allowed to “assert superiority and control over men”. Sorry ladies, these lovely gentlemen want you to live in a world where masculinity is kingRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language. Before I get started, I want to handle my review for the week. Check out Donotlink. It’s a sweet website that allows you to link to websites that are offensive or problematic without improving their search engine position! I’m a huge fan. There has been a lot of shit happening lately. Gamergate, the Snappening, the Fappening, and all sorts of violence against women, both in person and online. In fact, thereRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. I can remember exactly two instances from my past where my dress code was called into question. The first was when I was in high school, I wore a shirt from Save the Tatas. It simply said “My tatas could beat up your tatas”. This was prior to my breast reduction, and my breasts were (and still are) rather large. My best friend was wearing a shirt that saidRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. What happens when you mess up? Is an apology enough? Can you make a mistake and recover from it? As a feminist, a sex educator, and someone who basically lives their life on the internet and in a public forum, I am often overcome with anxiety about these questions. In fact, if there is anything about what I do that is most exhausting, it is the fact that I amRead More →

African-American man smoking a pipe with a critical quote about Hobby Lobby

This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. I was intending on writing a lovely post to extol the virtues of my new favorite lube, however, I came home from my vacation to this shit. This post is going to be about the SCOTUS decision in Burwell v. Hobby Lobby Stores, Inc. Now, the overall takeaway for this is that Hobby Lobby WILL COVER all of the following forms of birth control: Male condoms Female condoms Diaphragms with spermicide Sponges with spermicide Cervical caps with spermicide Spermicide alone Birth-control pills with estrogen and progestin (“Combined Pill) Birth-control pills with progestinRead More →

This is to serve as both a content notice and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. Every single year there is at least one blog post that goes viral that discusses the behaviors of young women during the warmer months. Most of the time those blogs discuss the ways that women are destroying the men of the world and luring them into sin and hellfire by posting a sultry picture of themselves in a bikini, or a sexy summer pic on instagram where they’re braless and comfortable. Today, I’m here to bitch about them. This is such bullshit. This is the bullshit that people areRead More →