I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a content notice and a notice about NSFW language and images. Poly Living Philadelphia! This weekend (if you’ve been following me on Twitter), you may have noticed that I was at Poly Living Philadelphia. PLP is a reasonably small con hosted by Loving More, a non-profit that focuses on poly activism and relationship choice. There were a number of amazing things to come out of the weekend. I shared some pretty spectacular kisses. I met some new friends, and some friends I hadRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images I know, you’re all probably tired of hearing about Fifty Shades of Grey. EVERYONE is talking about it, and frankly, it’s exhausting. I’m tired of hearing about Fifty Shades of Grey (henceforth FSOG), but I’m also tired of having to re-explain my points. More than anything though, I’m tired of seeing industry professionals defend this book. Here are some things that I feel about this book: The argument thatRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the fourth and final segment of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about sex, a topic that needs no other introduction. Check the new language below! Sex-positive: Understanding that sex can potentially be a positive force in someone’s life, regardless of desires, relationship structures, and/or consensual individual choices.  This is my working definition, and I include those who do not enjoy/do not have sex, are anorgasmic, or feel that sex is a negative influence in their life. Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in theRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. I was going to continue my holiday reviews, but I’m actually so pissed off that I’m skipping the review tonight y’all. I’ll save it for the new year. HARRUMPH. Remember how I spent THREE DAYS talking about what it’s like being a woman on the internet? No? Check here, here, and here. Go ahead, I’ll wait. Now that you’re caught up on how fucking tedious it is to existRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. For the first part of this three part series, click here. For the second part of this three part series, click here. Guess what ladies!? Nothing you do is ever going to be good enough. You are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. If you put motherhood ahead of your career, you’re setting back feminism by 50 years. If you focus on your career over motherhood, you’reRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. For the first part of this three part series, click here. We hear a lot about misogyny on the internet. I can literally give you post after post about misogyny on the internet. I can show an entire community that believes that women should not be allowed to “assert superiority and control over men”. Sorry ladies, these lovely gentlemen want you to live in a world where masculinity is kingRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language. Before I get started, I want to handle my review for the week. Check out Donotlink. It’s a sweet website that allows you to link to websites that are offensive or problematic without improving their search engine position! I’m a huge fan. There has been a lot of shit happening lately. Gamergate, the Snappening, the Fappening, and all sorts of violence against women, both in person and online. In fact, thereRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. I can remember exactly two instances from my past where my dress code was called into question. The first was when I was in high school, I wore a shirt from Save the Tatas. It simply said “My tatas could beat up your tatas”. This was prior to my breast reduction, and my breasts were (and still are) rather large. My best friend was wearing a shirt that saidRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. What happens when you mess up? Is an apology enough? Can you make a mistake and recover from it? As a feminist, a sex educator, and someone who basically lives their life on the internet and in a public forum, I am often overcome with anxiety about these questions. In fact, if there is anything about what I do that is most exhausting, it is the fact that I amRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. If you are having thoughts of suicide or self-harm, please, click here or contact the national suicide hotline at  1-800-273-8255. For help finding affordable mental health services, click here. I know that this doesn’t necessarily deal with sex, but I believe it is incredibly important to discuss. When we die, there is often a note about how we died that gets attached to our stories. Those pieces of our lives, of our deaths,Read More →