I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and images. For the first part of this three part series, click here. We hear a lot about misogyny on the internet. I can literally give you post after post about misogyny on the internet. I can show an entire community that believes that women should not be allowed to “assert superiority and control over men”. Sorry ladies, these lovely gentlemen want you to live in a world where masculinity is kingRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language. Before I get started, I want to handle my review for the week. Check out Donotlink. It’s a sweet website that allows you to link to websites that are offensive or problematic without improving their search engine position! I’m a huge fan. There has been a lot of shit happening lately. Gamergate, the Snappening, the Fappening, and all sorts of violence against women, both in person and online. In fact, thereRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. I can remember exactly two instances from my past where my dress code was called into question. The first was when I was in high school, I wore a shirt from Save the Tatas. It simply said “My tatas could beat up your tatas”. This was prior to my breast reduction, and my breasts were (and still are) rather large. My best friend was wearing a shirt that saidRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Jon lost his job in August. My spouse, my love, my darling, lost his job in August. Of course, this sort of life change sent me into a panic, as it normally does. I’ve been digging up ways to get our finances on track, and hoping, begging, and praying to whatever deity might possibly listen that someone, somewhere hires my husband. My concerns range from the terrifying (what happens if we cannot afford our apartment) to the ridiculous (so much for our date nights). In the chaos, multiple people have remarked that I look asRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. I saw it coming from a mile away. I tried to pretend it wasn’t happening, but I just couldn’t shake the nagging feeling that my relationship with Winston was ending. He moved south for school and I noticed that the texts stopped coming. Truly, this was also my fault. After all, the phone works both ways, and the messages weren’t coming from me either. I tried to pretend it wasn’t happening, that he was just too busy to be keeping in touch. After all, we had our weekly Skype dates, and we texted sometimes, when weRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. What happens when you mess up? Is an apology enough? Can you make a mistake and recover from it? As a feminist, a sex educator, and someone who basically lives their life on the internet and in a public forum, I am often overcome with anxiety about these questions. In fact, if there is anything about what I do that is most exhausting, it is the fact that I amRead More →

First things first, I’d like to congratulate Myra T. for winning The Frisky Fairy Giveaway! Thank you all for entering! I’m hoping to do another giveaway soon! This past weekend I made the trek up to New York City to see one of my very best friends and also visit a few excellent sex-positive locations! Take a look at all the awesome things and places to go! First things first I headed to the Museum of Sex, with my best friend to take a peek at their awesome Funland exhibit! Unfortunately, their boob bounce was deflated and having some reconstructive surgery, so I couldn’t hopRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Hello friends! This week I’m discussing a topic that is incredibly close to my heart. This companion to my post So You Think You May Be Poly… has been requested from me multiple times for the friends and family of poly people, to explain the basics of polyamory. This is not a comprehensive guide. In fact, consider this a Part I. First things first, what is Polyamory? If you are hearing about this for the first time, the concept of poly may be bringing up images of religious men with many wives, or crazy sex partiesRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images. If you are having thoughts of suicide or self-harm, please, click here or contact the national suicide hotline at  1-800-273-8255. For help finding affordable mental health services, click here. I know that this doesn’t necessarily deal with sex, but I believe it is incredibly important to discuss. When we die, there is often a note about how we died that gets attached to our stories. Those pieces of our lives, of our deaths,Read More →

I had been openly poly with my two partners Jon and Kai for almost three years when I met James* in September of 2012. He was handsome, funny, charming, and intelligent. Did I mention charming? I felt so incredibly lucky to have met such a handsome guy on my first real venture into polyamorous dating, and I was enjoying every minute of new relationship energy. In December, after meeting James, I was introduced to Lina*, another girl he was seeing. I spent the next weekend with her, and we swiftly became good friends. The three of us spent time enjoying each other whenever we hadRead More →