Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments.   When I started this journey it was very hard for me to understand what I was worth. After all, there’s no real site that shares what Sex Educators make. It’s not like I can pop over to Glassdoor to type in my qualifications, and have it spit out how much I should charge someone to recommend the best sex toy, or to help them with their dating profiles. Many educators (myself included), prefer to be contacted for their rates, for a variety of reasons. For me, it’s mostly vanity in that the contact validatesRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a trigger warning and a warning about NSFW language and/or images I know, you’re all probably tired of hearing about Fifty Shades of Grey. EVERYONE is talking about it, and frankly, it’s exhausting. I’m tired of hearing about Fifty Shades of Grey (henceforth FSOG), but I’m also tired of having to re-explain my points. More than anything though, I’m tired of seeing industry professionals defend this book. Here are some things that I feel about this book: The argument thatRead More →

Valentine’s day is coming and for some of us that means we get to snuggle up closer to our partners, for others, it means we get to flirt with someone new or treat ourselves. Regardless of what your plans are for romance or sex on Valentine’s Day, here are some stunning options for how to treat yourself or a partner to some excellent care. I’ve curated this list of items you haven’t seen before, but don’t worry, full reviews are COMING SOON. Make sure you pick up some of these stunners at some of my favorite shops! So have a happy Valentine’s day, and I’ll see youRead More →

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the fourth and final segment of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about sex, a topic that needs no other introduction. Check the new language below! Sex-positive: Understanding that sex can potentially be a positive force in someone’s life, regardless of desires, relationship structures, and/or consensual individual choices.  This is my working definition, and I include those who do not enjoy/do not have sex, are anorgasmic, or feel that sex is a negative influence in their life. Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in theRead More →

Another friend of mine is FAMOUS! I love that I’m getting to a point in my life where I get to see my friends all over the internet. I also love that we are at a point as a culture where an article about a mom battling depression via orgasm has gone absolutely viral. I’m so proud of Crista, and I’m so excited about her #orgasmquest, and when she opened up for friends to interview her, I jumped at the chance. Be prepared to fall in love with her a little bit. The Frisky Fairy: OrgasmQuest is blowing up! but let’s get back to the beginningRead More →

A "relationship map," a collection of colored stars, hearts and circles with letters insides, connected to one another by lines

Please remember to be polite and respectful in the comments. Welcome to the third portion of my four part discussion on Bad Poly. Today I’m going to talk about communication. Why it’s important, and why I am so deliciously, delightfully, disastrously bad at it. Check the new language below! Primary Partner: In many relationships a primary partner is the person(s) in the relationships accorded the most importance. Secondary Partner:  In many relationships, a secondary partner is the person(s) in the relationship who, have a relationship that is given less in time/energy/etc. than a primary relationship. Tertiary Partner: The person(s) in the relationship who have a relationship that requires littleRead More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! So sorry that I didn’t post on Tuesday or Thursday, but I have been super sick. No really! I swear! I can get a doctors note if you want? No? Okay then, I’ll give you this post today, because I love you. So I had been excited to review the love is art kit for some time, so when they sent me the Shades of Grey art kit to review, I was pretty freaking excited. I found a partner willing to get disgustingly covered in paint with me, and we setRead More →

I know I said I’d be back on the 8th, but I JUST MISSED YOU GUYS OKAY!? So, a bit of backstory for you kinky kittens. I got a chance to meet Cooper S. Beckett (Yes, the one from Life on the Swingset) at CatalystCon West 2014. I was lucky enough to be introduced courtesy of my AMAZING roommates, and so I was in complete and utter shock at the fact that not only did I get to meet the infamous Swingset crew, but I actually got to hang out with them, like a lot. Like these people decided that I was going to be a friend (orRead More →

Trigger Warning: Graphic Descriptions of Self Harm I’d like to apologize in advance for harshing on your holiday groove because this is not a happy post. I debated for quite some time about even sharing this post, and I’ve looked at it a number of times and considered scrapping the whole fucking thing. My partners have encouraged me to post it, as they feel (and so do I) that the topic is not something that is discussed enough, and ought to be given more attention. I’m posting this over the holidays because for me, the holidays are often marked with anxiety, family arguments, stress, andRead More →