Polyamory can be wonderful, but it can also suck so hard. If your partners are awesome, sometimes this can get sorted easily, but it can definitely be tedious. These are my top ten reasons why polyamory sucks. 1.) There is never a bed big enough for everyone, or a cuddle position that leaves everyone feeling properly included. If you’re a person (like me) who has multiple partners that do not interact with each other in a sexual/romantic fashion, you may encounter this obnoxious issue. I have Alex, Jon, KP, and Bobby. All of whom I’m trying to snuggle with in a bed that is notRead More →

EDIT: I will no longer be replying to comments. Provided they are not death threats, rape threats, or threats against me or mine I will still approve them through. However, I have better things to do. Like my partners. Xoxo   You know… I’ve got a pretty solid soapbox here. Because of that, I get to talk about issues that I feel really strongly about. Tonight, I’m going to talk about issues that I feel really fucking strongly about. Maybe it’s because I just saw Mad Max: Fury Road and Imperator Furiosa is basically everything I want to be as a person. Maybe it’s because IRead More →

Oh my goodness my loves. Playa Del Fuego(PDF) was fucking incredible. It was my first burn, and it was so amazing. I’m glad that I was able to go, and I can’t wait to go again. On the upside, I now get to tell you all about the books I read while I was at PDF instead of socializing! I had been saving Best Bondage Erotica 2015 for a time when I could really give it the attention that it deserves. Which meant that I had it on hold for a few months while my schedule was chaotic. So it totally made sense that while IRead More →

  **A quick note: I will be out of town at Playa Del Fuego from May 21-May 27th (I’m taking a couple days of recovery time). If you can’t reach me, that’s why!** I’m a person who prefers a hotel room to a campground. I prefer swimming pools to murky lake water. I prefer needing sunscreen to needing bug spray. I prefer to have wifi when I go on vacation, and if not wifi, at least cell phone reception.  I love big, soft, comfy beds, and air conditioning, and hot running water indoors. When people meet me, they don’t say things like “oh that girlRead More →

Amid the coverage of the #baltimoreuprising, I had a really strange thing happen to me. I spent a lot of my time screaming at talking to white people when the news of the riots broke. Much of my conversation was spent defending the rioters, and their reaction to the consistent systemic oppression that people of color are facing across the country. Most of the people in the conversation are white. All of the people arguing against me are white. In fact, in the entire 48 hours and well over 100 FB notifications I got on the topic, not once did I see a person of colorRead More →

Yeah, okay so it doesn’t rhyme. Whatever. This April I want to talk about some of my Favorites for squirting. I think that squirting doesn’t get talked about enough, and with all the BULLSHIT CONTROVERSY (seriously though, click here for why this is bullshit) I wanted to post up some of my favorites for things that make me squirt (but not pee). I also wanted to do this post during April, because April Showers, and squirting… COME ON, IT’S CUTE, ADMIT IT. So I’m going to bring up some of my newest favorites for squirting, and give you a rundown on the things I keep by my bedsideRead More →

**UPDATE- 4/10 22:21 EST** I mentioned in this post that it was hacked, that was incorrect of me. The person who created the list simply exploited Fetlife’s code to release information. This information (while not directly outing people) could be used to out people. If you’re concerned, I strongly suggest removing all identifying photos. **In addition, Fetlife has been terrible at protecting their communities (specifically those who are sexually assaulted). Please don’t take my silence as an indication that these weren’t issues before, I simply haven’t had the chance to write about them, whereas this was slightly more time sensitive. ***Finally, it appears that for whatever reasonRead More →

The Frisky Fairy Reviews favorite toys, books, blogs, and other fun sex education reviews! This is to serve as a Content Notice and/or a Notice about NSFW language and images. Hey lovelies! Sorry that it’s been so long since I’ve posted a review! I am having some pretty intense personal things happening here, but I’ve got so many good things coming! If you’re interested in picking up some sexy Frisky Fairy Swag, Click here! If you’re a poly person who has a Coming Out story to share, click here and submit to be a part (anonymously if needed) of the book I’m co-writing with Tamara Pincus! NowRead More →

  People call me a social justice warrior like this isn’t a fucking medal of honor. Like fighting for someone’s rights, for justice and equality isn’t a thing of pride. Like I’m not a fucking Social Justice Warrior Fairy? Well, fuck that. I am proud to be a Social Justice Warrior. So proud in face, that The Frisky Fairy is immortalized in a mascot: Designed by the incredible Jayne Jezebelle of Magical Tea Time on Etsy, The Frisky Social Justice Warrior is wielding her laptop of truth and her dildo of justice. If you’re digging this image, and you want to support me, head toRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. This is to serve as both a content notice and a notice about NSFW language and images. Poly Living Philadelphia! This weekend (if you’ve been following me on Twitter), you may have noticed that I was at Poly Living Philadelphia. PLP is a reasonably small con hosted by Loving More, a non-profit that focuses on poly activism and relationship choice. There were a number of amazing things to come out of the weekend. I shared some pretty spectacular kisses. I met some new friends, and some friends I hadRead More →