Hello lovelies! I don’t know if you’ll notice it, but I have a new camera from my metamour! It’s lovely, and we’ll be using it for photos today instead of my phone camera, which is basically the worst. Coming up for future posts, my Bestie sent me a fancy grown-up camera that I’m going to have to figure out. Let’s give a special thanks to my two lovely ladies who made my life simpler and prettier. So I’ve heard lots and lots from people who really want me to do more reviews, so here I am! About a month Ages and ages ago, you may haveRead More →

Hellooooooo my loves. I hope you’ve been well. I had a great time over my birthday, and I even had a birthday party that turned into an “adult swim” after the kids had gone to bed. I’ve had a few doctors appointments after that (remind me to write a post about the Mirena), which is why I’ve been so silent. All in all, 26 is shaping up to be a damn fine year. Which brings us to the less lovely part of my post. Unfortunately, the past few months I’ve been hiding something from you all. Part of this is the fact that despite posting andRead More →

Holy hell, another year has gone by for me! I’m another year older (in four days, but whatever). This year I made a lot of friends, I’ve gone a lot of places, and I’ve gotten to get a lot of readers! Thank you so much for making my 25th year memorable and wonderful! My party is this weekend (check out my Instagram for photos), and my birthday is on July 14th, so don’t expect to hear too much from me till then! I live tweet my life, and love my instagram photos, so follow me on those! If you love what I do, what IRead More →

I have one lung. I live with mental illness. I do this amazing Frisky Fairy stuff. I am trying to go back to school. I’m busy. Parts of my life need me to consistently manage my spoons in order to continue doing the things I love. What are spoons, you ask? Well if you haven’t read the original post yet, do so now. I talk about spoons a lot when I’m talking about my life and so, the short answer when asking about the Spoon Theory is this: The spoon theory is a model used by some disabled people and people with chronic illness toRead More →

I have been so excited about this review for SO LONG, but first things first! The Fourth of July is happening in the states, which means fireworks, grilled food, and a shit ton of alcohol. That being said, please make sure you stay safe this July. Use condoms, wear seatbelts, and call a cab, a friend, or any other ride if you’ve been drinking.. If you’re firing off fireworks, check with your neighbors first to make sure none of them are combat veterans, or on the Autism spectrum. Please be safe and be kind, because I pretty much love you all. It is no bigRead More →

  For those of you who aren’t in the know, I’ve spent a lot of time feeling less than because I don’t have a degree. It’s been frustrating and it’s been overwhelming for me, mostly because I dislike feeling as though I can’t do something even though I have experience that outweighs someone with a degree. Well, as I’ve worked on this blog, and learned things I like and want, my goals have shifted a bit, which is why I need your help. I would like to go back to school. I want to go back to school so I can get my degrees andRead More →

I spend a few days playing with my shiny new Hitachi and come back to utter chaos in the form of a group of teenagers who apparently did some magical shit with latex, which was nearly cancelled out by the SCOTUS ruling on same sex marriage. Here’s the only thing I’m going to say on the Same-Sex marriage ruling: #lovewins but remember how many we lost to get here, and don’t forget how much more progress is left to go. — Rebecca Hiles (@TheFriskyFairy) June 26, 2015   If you haven’t heard about the condom thing, here’s a basic rundown. A group of teens inRead More →

I have written about my cancer journey before. I’ve mentioned my care team, who make my life easier, and their credentials. I’ve written about how to interact with cancer patients. I’ve even spoken on the topic for a third time at Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit. I’ve tried to be kind and jovial, and reasonable about the entire thing. I’ve tried to be educational. I’ve tried to be happy just to be alive. I just can’t anymore. I can’t advocate for patient rights, I can’t advocate for science without a little venom. Coming off a post raging against alternative medicine, I can’t be quiet about it anymore.Read More →

  Some days, doing this job can get a bit exhausting. It can feel like I don’t make enough, like I don’t know where it’s going. Like I’m not great at it. Then there’s days like today. Today, I got to spend my entire day masturbating with my FAVORITE TOY to compare it to it’s newer, sleeker version. I got to listen to some erotic audio that can be so incredibly dirty. I love it. Curious? Check it out here. I know it’s awful, and it’s probably a bit because my partner has an accent, but god there is something about that tumblr that justRead More →

I hate Franklin Veaux. Now, now I know that people are going to bristle at that, but bear with me here. The co-author of More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory, a book I absolutely adored, (and highly recommend to those who are new to poly) is a jerk. You are asking me why, I can hear you shiver with antici- I hate Franklin Veaux because he made me cry. Not just cry, he made me weep. When Jon and I first started dating, I told him pretty explicitly that I wasn’t very good at monogamy. I told him all the things that could happen. AllRead More →