I’m a slut. Slutty McSlutterson over here. I’ll sleep with just about anyone who piques my interest. Kidding (but not really). In reality, I identify as a megasexual. Dr. Liz Powell and I coined the term “Megasexual“ at our panel “Actually, it *is* About the Sex” during Atlanta Poly Weekend 2015. We defined Megasexual as: Megasexuals are characterized as individuals who lack emotional connection toward any person or persons unless they first form a strong sexual connection with someone. The level of sexual connection it takes for an emotional bond to form is often dependent on the initial attraction to the person. It is anRead More →

I will not tolerate abusive or harassing behavior on my site. My site, my rules. Don’t like it? GTFO. I will not tolerate victim blaming, shaming, or other incendiary comments that trash victims of sexual assault or consent violations. Those comments will be deleted immediately without approval. This is to serve as a content notice about sexual assault, consent, etc. Settle in friends, because this one’s a doozy. By now, most of the people in my community have heard about Kelly Shibari speaking out about her experience of consent violations with Reid Mihalko. Before I continue I want to make a few things clear: IRead More →

There is a person I love dearly. He’s one of my people. He’s one of the people who have pushed me when I needed pushed, and been a safe harbor for me in a storm. He gives nods to me every chance he gets, and I try to do the same when I can. Behold, Kevin Patterson of Poly Role Models. You see, in addition to his 18 billion speaking engagements (THE KEYNOTESSSSS), his multiple partners, his muggle job, and his tiny humans he managed to write a book. Kevin has been working on has finished a book for the polyamorous community that can shed someRead More →

Obligatory note that my family members, employers, future employers, teachers, should probably not read this. It’s pretty NSFW   So the Traveling Sybian and I went on one final trip before I sadly sent her back home. We went up to New York, to visit my partner Wes, because I really, really wanted to try it with him fucking me from behind. I was so interested in him fucking me with his arms wrapped around me. So he could nuzzle my neck, and whisper the sexy things in my ear. Spoiler alert: This is not what happened.   So I get the Sybian to NewRead More →

Lean in, my darlings, because I’m about to tell you a secret… You see, I’m afraid of other women. Not even necessarily women, but folks who have identified or lived as women for big parts of their lives. So I thought, if *I’M* afraid, surely other folks are too. And I brought the idea of this topic up to a bunch of amazing folks, only to hear the same thing: “I am bisexual, but I’ve never really (kissed/had sex with/dated/etc.) another woman, because I don’t know how to approach them.” Some of the reasons beyond “I don’t know how to approach them” included “They don’tRead More →

I want you to know that there will be a blog post with the transcript to this video (I pre-wrote it, Facebook live video is embedded at the bottom), that will include the links I’m talking about in the (possibly likely) event that this video gets taken down and I get banned again. Follow me @TheFriskyFairy on Twitter if that happens. I also want to let you know that this post will contain comments with lots of violence. Please be prepared. So for those of you who didn’t know, I spent a lovely weekend with my partner and Romulus, Prince of Cats. We spent timeRead More →

I have been struggling a lot lately, so I figured today is a great day to write down some things that I wish. Things my mental illness steals from me. I have Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar II Disorder, and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. To be honest, it is miserable to live in my brain. I don’t recommend it, but here’s a little insight into what goes on in here. 1. I wish I could let shit go, rather than replay it over and over in my brain. Unfortunately, it’s always there. Every time I upset someone. Every time there’s a conflict. Every time I feel badRead More →

Hello lovelies! Today I want to talk about something really important to me.  This something that touches everyone, this reason that I do what I do, my passion in life: Sexual freedom. We live in a world where sexual freedom is not a given. It’s not a given to be at peace in your own body. It’s not a given to be able to love yourself. It’s not a given to be unashamed of who you are on the basis of your identities. This. Touches. Everyone. I’m not sure if I’ve ever mentioned it before, but ever since I was a kid I knew IRead More →

Yes, yes. I’ve been a bit absent. I don’t really have any excuses other than the mental health stuff, so I just want to say that I’m sorry <3 Anyway, on to a review I’ve been slacking on, NOT because I hated it, but because I wanted to be sure about how much I loved it before posting. Because I’m too damn lazy to go back through and edit reviews. #sorrynotsorry Last year I was gifted with the most spectacular, shiny, shiny toy: The Doxy 2.0 Diecast. Now, I’ve talked about it before but I fucking LOVE toys that come in a fancy case. I loveRead More →

Hey! Feb 3-5 I’ll be at Poly Living Philadelphia being awesome! Come see me (and a bunch of awesome folks) talking about polyamory and stuff! And in this corner, weighing in at 6.6oz, hailing from Sparks, Nevada, to bring joy to those looking for a less intimidating wand vibration, the lightweight champion of the world: THE TANTUS RUMBLE!!! I love Tantus. I love the company, I love the creators, I love the toys, I love the packaging. I love everything about Tantus. So when I first laid eyes on the soft, silky, shimmery blue of the Tantus Rumble I just wanted to have it allRead More →