I spend a few days playing with my shiny new Hitachi and come back to utter chaos in the form of a group of teenagers who apparently did some magical shit with latex, which was nearly cancelled out by the SCOTUS ruling on same sex marriage. Here’s the only thing I’m going to say on the Same-Sex marriage ruling: #lovewins but remember how many we lost to get here, and don’t forget how much more progress is left to go. — Rebecca Hiles (@TheFriskyFairy) June 26, 2015   If you haven’t heard about the condom thing, here’s a basic rundown. A group of teens inRead More →

I have written about my cancer journey before. I’ve mentioned my care team, who make my life easier, and their credentials. I’ve written about how to interact with cancer patients. I’ve even spoken on the topic for a third time at Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit. I’ve tried to be kind and jovial, and reasonable about the entire thing. I’ve tried to be educational. I’ve tried to be happy just to be alive. I just can’t anymore. I can’t advocate for patient rights, I can’t advocate for science without a little venom. Coming off a post raging against alternative medicine, I can’t be quiet about it anymore.Read More →

  Some days, doing this job can get a bit exhausting. It can feel like I don’t make enough, like I don’t know where it’s going. Like I’m not great at it. Then there’s days like today. Today, I got to spend my entire day masturbating with my FAVORITE TOY to compare it to it’s newer, sleeker version. I got to listen to some erotic audio that can be so incredibly dirty. I love it. Curious? Check it out here. I know it’s awful, and it’s probably a bit because my partner has an accent, but god there is something about that tumblr that justRead More →

I hate Franklin Veaux. Now, now I know that people are going to bristle at that, but bear with me here. The co-author of More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory, a book I absolutely adored, (and highly recommend to those who are new to poly) is a jerk. You are asking me why, I can hear you shiver with antici- I hate Franklin Veaux because he made me cry. Not just cry, he made me weep. When Jon and I first started dating, I told him pretty explicitly that I wasn’t very good at monogamy. I told him all the things that could happen. AllRead More →

Polyamory can be wonderful, but it can also suck so hard. If your partners are awesome, sometimes this can get sorted easily, but it can definitely be tedious. These are my top ten reasons why polyamory sucks. 1.) There is never a bed big enough for everyone, or a cuddle position that leaves everyone feeling properly included. If you’re a person (like me) who has multiple partners that do not interact with each other in a sexual/romantic fashion, you may encounter this obnoxious issue. I have Alex, Jon, KP, and Bobby. All of whom I’m trying to snuggle with in a bed that is notRead More →

EDIT: I will no longer be replying to comments. Provided they are not death threats, rape threats, or threats against me or mine I will still approve them through. However, I have better things to do. Like my partners. Xoxo   You know… I’ve got a pretty solid soapbox here. Because of that, I get to talk about issues that I feel really strongly about. Tonight, I’m going to talk about issues that I feel really fucking strongly about. Maybe it’s because I just saw Mad Max: Fury Road and Imperator Furiosa is basically everything I want to be as a person. Maybe it’s because IRead More →

So before I get started in on my review today, I want to send a brief mention to Atlanta Poly Weekend. The weekend was such a wonderful experience in terms of meeting people, and I was so thrilled to have seen so many people in my panels! Thank you so much for having me as a presenter! If you haven’t gone to Atlanta Poly Weekend yet, they’re already planning for 2016, and I highly recommend that you go. It’s a wonderful space with wonderful people and a family friendly event. I especially want to thank the amazing Dr. Liz Powell for being such an awesome panel-mate. You can catchRead More →

Oh my goodness my loves. Playa Del Fuego(PDF) was fucking incredible. It was my first burn, and it was so amazing. I’m glad that I was able to go, and I can’t wait to go again. On the upside, I now get to tell you all about the books I read while I was at PDF instead of socializing! I had been saving Best Bondage Erotica 2015 for a time when I could really give it the attention that it deserves. Which meant that I had it on hold for a few months while my schedule was chaotic. So it totally made sense that while IRead More →